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And the best part Its all DARTable DART.ORGdartable 4 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 The Go-To Source for Parents of Kids Tweens to Twenties MAY JUNE CONTENTS goodLIFEfamily LIVE. LEARN. LAUGH. REPEAT. Every effort has been made to authenticate the information contained on these pages. Should you find an error omission or issue with the content please contact us. The opinions and expressions contained herein are those of the myriad of specialists and of parents and children who were willing to offer their input and are not necessarily endorsed or shared by the staff or ownership of Good Life Family or its parent company SLP Company LLC. AND MUCH MORE GOODTO GO 60 DART Makes Family Time More Fun 64 Best Deals on Summer Travel GOODTO KNOW 34 Earn a College Degree in Your Pajamas 50 Dog Days of Summer 7 Tips to keep your pet safe GOOD LOOKS 25 Sizzling Summer Looks Make a statement with spectacular fashions for all your upcoming festivities. GOOD HEALTH 22 Worried About Osteoporosis A 15-minute scan can put your mind at ease GOOD EATS 62 READERS TOP PICKS The best juice wine and sports bars in Greater Dallas I like to help out. I like to help everybody. Community volunteer and Special Olympics star Bradley Rossel left with siblings Ilana and Jeremy on receiving the Chabad of Plano Chesed Award Page 70 ONTHE COVER GOOD LIVING 46 Increasing Your Homes Value The top 3 things you can do 48 Take it Outside Hot Gear for Cool Backyards GOODTIMES 76 Community Calendar and the Latest Event Photos Relax and Renew Refreshing advice to restore balance to your life Amy a REAL mom of 3 ages 15 13 and 8 dove in for this poolside GLF shoot. Photographed by Elle Parks and James Bland. 11 Finding Balance Its a thin line but its out there 14 Can Women Have it All Knowing how to balance the demands of work and family can be challenging 50 Road to Success or Race to Nowhere Whats driving education today 30 Great Gifts for Moms Dads and Grads GOOD ADVICE 18 When Divorce Happens Maintaining balance within the family 20 Torn Between Two Parents 6 dos and donts to keep kids out of conflict 42 My Child is Hurting. What Do I Do 38 Can We Talk Finding the words when things go wrong New Friends New Life is bringing hope... Human rights activist Amal Clooney at WINGS event chaired by VIP Award recipient Jeanne Phillips Page 8 6 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 - Sheryl THE GOOD PEOPLE at goodLIFEfamily ABOUT US There are two things parents hope to give their children roots and wings. But its often hard to know if the decisions were making are the right ones especially when the world is changing so quickly. 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Bird On A Wire For as long as I can remember I wanted to be a mom. Long before I knew what my career would be or who I would marry I knew. I also knew I wanted to be 100 self-reliant in complete control of my life personally professionally and financially. IfoundmypassioninPRandadvertising.Itallowedmetodowhat I loved most helping talentedinterestinggood people get more attentionmake more moneyget further in their lives the same passion I would take into my role as a mom. I led quite an exciting professional life post-college building friendships and partnerships and many of those relationships are still a huge part of my life. I was operating at breakneck speed and having a heck of a ride and yet my balance felt off. I. WANTED. KIDS. Fast forward. At age 33 I found THE ONE who shared both my heart and my commitment to family and a new chapter of my life opened. I sold my uptown agency and headed north. AdWeek Magazine heralded the transition with the headline SHERYL LILLY GROUP TO SHERYL PIDGEON COOP. Yeah that was pretty clever. The transition from high rise to suburbia was not simple. My husband David who had just a few years prior been seeking my keen eye and professional wisdom to help launch his familys start-up Starpower was now delighted if I made him a banana milkshake. I was juggling three kids under the age of 4 and he left each morning for the office business as usual. Was I envious NOT. AT. ALL. Ok Maybe just a bit. I mean he was leaving the house to build a business and I was leaving a business to stay in the house. But I had my flock Looking back now these were some of the most challenging yet most rewarding days of my life. I built new friendships continued to pay it forward in my community took up tennis and book club launched two part-time businesses and raised a family. When I started GLF a few years back I knew it would likely throw my balance off but I felt a calling. This time it was to assemble like-minded moms and dads and ask them to join me in this journey to be a part of the Good Life FAMILY. We are birds sharing a wire. An extended family so to speak. Working HARD. Still raising kids. Many of us are also part of the Sandwich Generation those who are literally sandwiched between our teens coming of age and our aging parents. Talk about a juggling act Can we really have it all Personally I dont want it all. Ill just take my part as it comes one day at a time. Because giving 100 is really about giving not giving in or giving up. So as you read this issue of GLF I hope you are by a pool with a frozen drink or in a bubble bath or savoring a well-earned pedi or whatever brings you just a bit closer to center. Finding balance is a lot like finding the fountain of youth. Your brain knows it doesnt exist but your heart saysThis way GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 7 Contributors goodPEOPLE Rick Seaney Travel Expert Internationally known travel and airfare expert Rick Seaney CEO and co-founder of FareCompare is the medias go-to resource for airline industry news. Ricks mission is clear I want to help consumers find the best flight deals available every time they shop and he loves to share his insider information. Besides his advice blog on FareCompare Rick began writ- ing a weekly column for ABC News back in 2008 which continues to this day he is also USA Todays Airfare Expert col- umnist as well as a regular contributor to Fox News and is frequently quoted in the pages of the NewYorkTimesWall St. Journal Huffington Post and more. Dr. Susan Sugerman Adolescent Medicine Physician Board Certified by the American Academy of Pediatrics Dr. Sugerman is the presi- dent and co-founder of Girls to Women Health and Wellness GTW a multidisci- plinarymedicalpractice in north Dallas dedicat- ed to the physical and emotional needs of girls and young women ages 10-25. Published author and speaker on subjects ranging from adolescent development bullying sexuality and risk taking to resilience and preparing teens to transition to college she brings a professional perspective on whatsnormalandwhatsnotwhencon- sidering the struggles and celebrations of our youth as well as some wisdom about how the grownups in their lives can sup- port them to become healthy adults who can take good care of themselves. Paige McCoy Smith TV Personality Paige McCoy Smith is a television person- ality radio host and professional speaker who has entertained and educated audi- ences with content that resonates with the not so perfectside of life. She is a regular on WFAA Channel 8s Good Morning Texas and has made a name for herself being a real and relatable mom who gives women the free- dom to be who they are perfectlyimperfect.AsPaigesaysItsnot about being perfect. Its about being real. Lets stumble on this journey together. Colin Smith Attorney Colin Smith obtained a computer science degree from University of Texas and worked as a software consultant for ten years before re- turning to the classroom onnightsandweekends earning his law degree from SMU in 2010. Col- in finds that helping families plan for the future is most rewarding and focuses his legal career on estate and business planning especially living trusts. Colin is a member of the State Bar of Texas Dal- las Bar Association and the Dallas Trial Lawyers Association. In his free time he enjoys golfing with his children leading a Cub Scout den attending University of Texas football and Texas Ranger games and woodworking. Amy Levenson Krumholz Designer and Stylist Amy Levenson Krumholz is a StylistPer- sonal Shopper StyleByAmy.com with over 20 years of experience in the fashion industry. For14yearssheownedashow- room at the Dallas Apparel Mart and rep- resented over 85 lines of womens cloth- ing and accessories. She has designed three lines of contem- porarysportswearand has served as a retail buyer consultant and photo stylist. For the last 12 years Amy has worked with indi- vidual clients helping them discover their own personal style. Her services include personal shopping and outfit coordination. Look for Amys fashionsegmentsonGoodMorningTexas. Dr. Dean Beckloff PediatricTherapist Dr. Kwabena Blankson AdolescentMedicinePhysician Dr. Sandy Gluckman FunctionalBehaviorHealth Coach Vanita Halliburton FounderandPresident TheGrantHalliburton Foundation William McLaughlin HighSchoolPrincipal Ilana Narosov Philanthropist Dr. Cary A. Israel PresidentEmeritusofCollin College Sonja Pegram MiddleSchoolPrincipal Whitney Rosenbalm RichlandCollegeCollegiate HighSchool Stephany Sipes AssistantHighSchoolPrincipal David Stanley ElderCareExpert Dr. Susan Sugerman AdolescentMedicinePhysician KellyWaterman AdvocateforKidswithSpecial Needs Sandy Gluckman PhD Functional Behavior Health Coach Dr. Sandy is a Functional Behavior and Health Coach for parents who have chil- dren that are struggling with learning mood and behavior challeng- es. Her internationally acclaimed program ParentsTakeCharge. com introduces parents to drug-free options to treating learning behavior and mood challenges as well as teaches new ways ofparenting. Shelecturesrunsworkshops and consults throughout the world live or online. 2016 EDITORIAL ADVISORY BOARD Dr. Dean Beckloff Ph.D Dr. Beckloff maintains an active counsel- ingpracticeinDallasspecializingintreat- ment for childrens issues and families going through divorce. Dr. Beckloff has extensive experience including teaching working as a school counselor providing teacher training and working at the Center for Play Therapy at the University of North Texas. He is also active in his community working with child-focused community groups his desire is to see kids and fam- ilies thrive despite the stressors of life. Sierra Sanchez MSSW Sierra Sanchez MSSW is the Senior Pro- gram Coordinator at Grant Halliburton Foundation a Dallas nonprofit organiza- tion committed to teen and young adult men- tal health and suicide prevention. She travels throughout the Greater Dallas area to educate students parents and teachers on teen men- tal health issues. Sierra holds a Bachelors Degree in Social Work from the University of North Texas and a Master of Science in Social Work from the UniversityofTexasatArlington. Jeannie Benson RTRM Imaging Specialist Jeannie is a graduate of Saint Joseph School of Radiology Memphis TN and received a certification in mammography in 1998 which led to her specialty in Bone Min- eral Density DEXA. With a passion for patient education and providing the best health care available Jeannie joined En- vision Imaging in 1999 and is currently a Center Manager. SeeGoodLifeFamilyMAG.com forbiosoneachoftheBoard Members.Tonominate amemberpleaseemail SherylPidgeonatSheryl GoodLifeFamilyMAG.com. Elle Parks Photographer and Stylist ElleParksisacommercialphotographer stylist and designer based in Dallas. Her work has appeared in national and local publicationsincluding Vogue Texas Monthly and D Magazine. Her background is in the fashion Industry with her experience in places like New York and Milan it allows her to design each shoot as unique as her clients. 8 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 VIPAWARD The Determined Diplomat AMBASSADOR JEANNE PHILLIPS IS A MOM ON A MISSION TO STOP HUMAN TRAFFICKING Did you know the average age of a child who enters the human trafficking trade in Dallas is 13 years old When Ambassador Jeanne Phillips heard this staggering statistic it struck her to her core. Phillips learned about the human trafficking problem from Katie Pedigo current CEO of New Friends New Life NFNL and Nancy Ann Hunt longtime friend and active member of NFNL. NFNL is an organization dedicated to restoring and empowering formerly trafficked girls and sexually exploited women and their children newfriendsnewlife.org. My daughter Maggie was 14 at the time says Phillips. When I heard the statistic about girls being sold in Texas who were younger than she I literally felt physically sick. She also learned that human trafficking is a 99 million business in Dallas and Texas ranks second in the U.S. for the most occurrences. When Phillips first served on NFNLs advisory board she started working to raise awareness of the problem and the amazing men and women working to change the situation. Just knowing that Dallas has such a problem with human trafficking was disturbing to Phillips and she wanted to help these women who were facing such difficult circumstances. Then she had a difficult situation to face within her own family. Her husband David was diagnosed with a rare cancer that eventually took his life after a two year battle. Phillips was unexpectedly a single mother raising a teen daughter. People always ask me how I handled that loss and I tell them what I hope the women coming to New Friends New Life hear as by Karyn Brodsky Last month Ambassador Phillips chaired the 2016Wings Luncheon event for the second year this time bringing in Amal Clooney an internationally acclaimed human rights activist raising 1 million for New Friends New Life. Pictured L to R New Friends New Life CEO Katie Pedigo Nancy Ann Hunt Amal Clooney Ashlee Kleinert and Jeanne Phillips. Life is full of challenges...but they can all be overcome with faith and friends a sense of humor and a determination to accept the responsibility that we can make our lives better regardless of the challenges we face. -Jeanne Phillips PhotoCreditHoltHaynsworth GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 9 Our VIP Very Inspiring Parent Award honors the everyday and not-so-everyday heroes in our midst. Those whose tenacity integrity and courage inspire others to exemplify the samecharacterandputtheirfamiliesandcommunityfirstinspiteofthechallengeslifehasthrownatthem.GoodLifeFamilywillpresenttherecipientwithanelegantcrystalaward and will make a donation to the charity of their choice.There will be oneVIP award recipient in each issue of GoodLifeFamily magazine and featured on GoodLifeFamilyMag.com. For complete details or to nominate visit goodlifefamilymag.com or emailTriciagoodlifefamilymag.com. well Life is full of challengesbut they can all be overcome with faith and friends a sense of humor and a determination to accept the responsibility that we can make our lives better regardless of the challenges we face. For Ambassador Phillips and her daughter Maggie life was made better by adapting to a new normal never forgetting David and believing that there is a plan greater than we can imagine for each of us. A part of Phillips plan once Maggie left for Vanderbilt University in the fall of 2011 was to become more involved in community work and her career. In 2015 Ambassador Phillips agreed to chair NFNLs annual Wings Luncheon. Special guest actor Kevin Costner proved an engaging speaker and the event raised 1 million exceeding the organizations fundraising goal. LastmonthPhillipschairedtheeventforthesecondyearthis time bringing in Amal Clooney an internationally acclaimed barrister human rights activist philanthropist and author. The 2016 Wings Luncheon again exceeded the fundraising bar raising 1 million for the organization. These fundraising efforts are vital in informing the public about human trafficking which affects boys as well as girls. Its a societal issue not a gender issue and it happens in all communities not just disadvantaged ones Phillips explains. In fact both women and men helped NFNL lobby the State Legislature last spring to update Texas law to address what is becoming a growing problem in the state. House Bill 2290 which designates January as Human Trafficking Prevention Month was signed into law by Governor Abbott June 17 2015 and House Bill 2286 which provides an avenue for victims to possibly overturn convictions of prostitution accrued if they were in fact a victim of human trafficking was signed into law by Governor Greg Abbott June 19 2015. In addition over 20 other laws were passed addressing the rights of human trafficking victims in Texas. While involved with NFNL Ambassador Phillips has never forgotten her most important job being a mom to Maggie. She advises parents to find time to be very present with children and most of all enjoy every minute because the years fly by Maggie and I spend lots of time together and are very blessed adds Phillips. We give thanks for Davids life and look for ways that this loss can make us better more sensitive to others and more appreciative of what is truly important in life. She adds that one close friend told Maggie Its not what card you get in lifeits how you play the card that matters. Maggie is now involved in NFNL herself working to raise more volunteers in the 21-30 age group. She chaired the Home Tour last fall and is actively engaging her friends to become involved with NFNL so that the next generation of young leaders can support the organizations mission. For her strong voice in advocating for those entangled in human trafficking and her involvement in raising funds to help them leave a web of degradation while at the same time raising her daughter as a single parent Good Life Family Magazine is honored to present this months VIP award to Ambassador Jeanne Phillips. In addition to serving as U.S. Ambassador for President Bush receiving a host of political appointments and chairmanships and being active on numerous boards and committees Jeanne Phillips is a prominent Dallas businesswoman currently senior vice president for Corporate Affairs and International Relations at Hunt Consolidated Inc. where she also serves as president of Hunt Global Partnerships which oversees social investments around the world on behalf of the company. VIPAWARD To nominate someone you know for the GLF VIP Very Inspiring Parent Award go toGoodLifeFamilyMAG.com. Ambassador Jeanne Phillips with daughter Maggie Human trafficking is a 99 million business in Dallas and Texas ranks second in the U.S. for the most occurrences. PhotoCreditHoltHaynsworth An equal opportunity institution. richlandcollege.edu Dual Credit Earn college credit while still in high school Richland Collegiate High School Graduate from high school with college credit Exciting Programs Criminal Justice EMT Real Estate Digital Forensics Photography Engineering Technology Manufacturing New STEM Science Technology Engineering Math Center opening this spring New Honors Academy Online Classes Championship-winning sports teams FIND YOUR SUPER POWER AT RICHLAND COLLEGE WE CREATE SUPERHEROES. EARN YOUR POWERS WITH EXCITING PROGRAMS THAT WILL HELP YOU SAVE THE WORLD. Are you doing too much Do you Feel exhausted at the end of every day Resent things you used to enjoy Rely on food alcohol etc. to help you de-stress If so its time to find more balance. However many of us ignore our bodys warning signs opting instead for imbalance in every category. As Dr. Sandy Gluckman a Functional Behavior and Health Coach for parents at www.parentstakecharge.com says Were born with an amazing gifta body that knows exactly how to be perfectly healthy and balanced. Yet for some odd reason we choose to ignore this God-given gift and instead push ourselves unnaturally until we become ill. Why would we do this MANAGING YOUR EGO Oftentimes finding balance begins with letting go of our inner critic. Dr. Gluckman says Its our ego that tells us that we should be strong and perfect. Listening to it causes us to behave in ways that undermine the magnificent natural balance of our spirit body and brain. So try giving your ego a day or week off now and then. ESTABLISHING PRIORITIES If youre frustrated that you cant give 100 to your job family and social connections try asking Whats the most important thing to me right now More time with family Socializing Getting ahead Doing work I enjoy Write down your top three priorities. Dont judge them just get clear on them. Once youve done that finding balance starts to get easier. BOUNDARY SETTING AND ASKING FOR HELP You can also find more balance by managing boundaries with your tasks. Its ok to ask for help. Ask a co-worker to take on a task thats become burdensome. Get your kids to pitch in more so that youre not folding laundry at midnight. The same concept applies to many other areas where balance is a challenge including taking time for your partner or an aging parent while raising kids. Requesting help wherever possible is an integral part of staying sane when life gets hectic. MANAGING EXPECTATIONS If you love entertaining but find throwing lavish dinner parties stressful dont put your passion on hold. Host a simple potluck instead. If traveling gives you joy but college tuition makes vacations seem out of reach rethink your destination. You can still live loudly as they say on a budget. This may not be your year for a month in Europe but you can find an affordable memorable get-away that you and your spouse or family will love. There are only 24 hours in a day and we still need sleep exercise and relaxation. Let go of your ego be honest about your priorities ask for more help and manage expectations. You just might find yourself with a little more balance. Finding BalanceITS A THIN LINE BUT ITS OUT THERE by Kristin Cicciarelli 12 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodBALANCE Finding Me Time Finding me time now theres a funny thought. Me time usually happens between 530 am-533 am when Im slurping down my first tumbler of coffee to give me some caffeine courage to tackle the day I couldnt do all these jobs alone if it wasnt for my neighborhood support group called Pokeno. One thing I will clear my calendar for and I mean CLEAR is monthly Pokeno. This is theultimatemetimewithallmyotherfavoritesMesintheneighborhood. We are kind of a Type A group so the night is really all about me so to speak. If you have never played Pokeno its all about stealing as many 15 gifts as you can from your dear diva neighbor in the mostSouthernwayofcourse. The more stealing the louder and more obnoxious we get. It feels really good In a sense its spiritual and retail therapy rolled up into one cute gift bag. Youd think this group of Moms would never talk again but really thats the whole point. Finding time for me and all my nutty neighbors is why its so important to connect with the ones you love unconditionally Truly Pokeno can make you rich even if you leave empty handed you will have a full heart full belly and a full night of laughs Carie McAfee mom of a daughter 16 and son 18 Me time What is that I believe the first me time I can remember successfully carving out started after baby number four 17 years ago I had tried exercising in front of videos but basically I was working all the time and had too much mommy guilt to leave the kids for anything for myself. But one day while breastfeeding I discovered readingfor pleasure This clever multi-tasking concept allowed me to read part of a novel with each feeding which turned into an anticipated oasis in my hectic day. Ten years ago I co-founded a book club with some other Type A moms and we are still going strong meeting once a month over wine and dinner to share wit and wisdom and some girl time therapy too. Dr. Katie Blakely anesthesiologist mom of 4 boys aged 17 to 27. On any given Friday youll find me at The ArtistsShowplace. I dont consider myself an artist but I do like playing with paint. My three hours in art class are relaxingalmost meditative. I dont paint at hometoo many distractions not to mention the guilt. How can I paint a picture when theres laundry to do a dishwasher to unload and the endless chirping of my cell phone To me painting at home means walls cabinets and doors But when I go to my weekly art class its all about watercolors acrylics and alcohol inks. A delightful change of pace And on Friday evenings you can find me proudly showing my family my latest work of art Kim Brown GLF Advertising Manager mom of a daughter in college and a graduating high school senior son To end my day I enjoy reading a good book. I also like to create family scrapbooks and I try to take a weekend trip to scrapbook with friends every year. Lisa Schumacher preschool Office Manager and PTSO President JPII High School mom of 2 teenagers We asked local moms What do you consider me time And heres what they said ArtbyKimBrown GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 13 goodBALANCE Time with my girlfriends in any capacity GirlsNight Out mani-pedi Mahjongg happy hours walks etc.give me the opportunity to recharge count my blessings and be the best mom and wife possible. Ann Myer Office Manager mother of 16-year old twins I have taken up yoga. I find yoga and a soak in a bath with a good book the perfect way to refresh and reset myself. Debbie Rose empty nester wife and mother of 2 sons in college For me I play Mahjongg do yoga walk color Jazzercise all these things together help me find my balance. Laughter with friends using my mind moving my body and being creative are the most important things I can do for myself. I like to smile often laugh a lot and always remind myself how blessed I am. Teresa Niermeyer empty nester mother of 2 one college graduate and one in college at Saint Louis University I enjoy my morning walks with a friend. Not only do I get exercise but I also am able to enjoy the beauty of the outdoors and a little time to talk out lifes issues with a trusted friend. Jennifer Gibson nurse and PTA volunteer mother of threea high school senior one in college and one in the work force. And a new grandmotherI set a daily alarm on my phone and stop what I am doing and read a devotional. I also love mani-pedis with friends. Rhonda Wulz mother of 4 ages 26 23 and 20-year old twins Me time I wish I could say working outbut for me it is definitely making time for lunch and dinner with girlfriends. I also get up early and spend some alone time between 5 am and 6 am. While everyone is sleeping I can have a couple of hours of coffee and quiet. Sometimes I will read cruise social media Facebook Instagram Pinterest or just take time to play some games on my phone. Tina Borden PTA volunteer and mother of 2 daughter in high school son in college No matter what is on my schedule I carve out time each day for yoga. It balances me mentally by clearing my head of lifes stresses and it brings me balance physically by keeping me limber strong and toned. Taking this time for myself sets the tone for a better day and makes me a calmer mom and wife. Oh and a glass of wine with my friends is pretty great too Beth Thompson flight attendant volunteer and mom of two sons 16 and 18 14 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodBALANCE FINDING BALANCE Can Women Have it All by AliciaWanek What is all Of course the definition changes for every woman but most mothers can agree that knowing how to balance the demands of work and family can be challenging no matter what choices you make. There are constant demands on your time and striking the right chord for you and your family takes some strategic decision-making. Angie Sifferman Plano resident and co-founder of a local consulting firm of 25 women suggests it can be done. She has managed to balance work raising two daughters and even spent a year running a non-profit organization of over 900 women. She has seen up close and personal how differently women balance their choices. Her firm has implemented some creative approaches to helping women be able to work and stay home but not everyone is so lucky to work for an organization willing to do that. For the full-time career mom its about finding the balance between her two worlds. Attorney Marilea Lewis with Orsinger Nelson Downing and Anderson LLP a mother of two grown children says You have to keep in mind that there will be deadlines and emergencies in both your personal life and professional career. You need to take advantage of the times that there are no looming deadlines and no readily ascertainable emergencies to steady yourselfwhether it is your relationship with your children or in response to the needs of your clients. And of course find a good lipstick and comfortable shoes. She must have done a good job modeling this balance as her You need to take advantage of the times that there are no looming deadlines and no readily ascertainable emergencies to steady yourself. - Marilea Lewis mom of two and an attorney with Orsinger Nelson Downing and Anderson LLP 972.732.1989 PlainsCapital.com PlainsCapital Bank Equal Housing Lender Member FDIC2016 twins are now both practicing attorneys themselves. For others staying home full-time becomes the best option. Moms who are home are definitely working full-time too. I havent met a stay-at-home mom yet whos hanging out watching soap operas and eating bon-bons all day. Much of the success of our PTAs depends on these women who are working unpaid to keep the programs and libraries at schools up and running. The theme for all the women I spoke with is prioritizing. Dallas mom Tracy Bell whose personal resume reads like an entrepreneurial odyssey with her vast professional experiences believes women need to be the master of our own domain. She describes herself as Type A organized and efficientall of which have served her well as shes raised her three children now ages 29 16 and 12. Its her philosophy of Carpe Diemseize the daywhich helps her to assess her priorities daily. One of the other priorities she is committed to balancing is her philanthropy work. Recently she was named as one of 19 Zin Fellows at the American Associates Ben-Gurion University of the Negev in Israel and is as proud of her unpaid work as she is of all of her professional accomplishments. Angie reminds us We have to respect women where they are. No judgment either way. As women we need to support each others decisions. And sometimes those change over time. For Angie she was able to as she says dial it back when her children were younger but now she works almost full-time hours. Other women like Angie have found that as their children get older theyve pursued their career goals more. Amy Harberg a local child and adolescent therapist stayed at home with her children for twelve years. She has steadily taken on more clients in the past four years since she went back to work in private practice. She believes her children ages 18 15 and 14 value my time a little differently but also appreciate that I have something important to do at work. She believes for women theres always a bit of the grass is greener view women at home miss working and women working envy the time stay-at-home moms have with their families. Ultimately you have to figure out what works for you. Its a juggling act. Amber Liddell Alwais also an attorney with ONDA says I have to keep in mind that although I might not get it perfect I am getting it right most of the time. You may have to give up something in the process of prioritizing as our managing editor Tricia White reports. Ive had to give up having everything perfectly in place having a clean house at all times and home cooked meals since returning to work full- time... But I try Dont we all goodBALANCE Women need to be themaster of our own domain. -Tracy Bell entrepreneur GLF senior editor and mom of three ages 29 16 and 12 16 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodADVICE LIFE MOVES BY PRETTY FAST Recording our lives for our kids allows us to reflect on our own sense of balance and reveals our hopes for the future and our thoughts on the past There was a great one-liner in Ferris Buellers Day Off that has stuck with me over the years Life moves by pretty fast. If you dont stop and look around once in a while you could miss it. As we get older the world seems to be moving so much faster and despite the advances in technology we have less free time than we ever didleaving us more unbalanced than we have ever been as a society. Once in a while we have to hit the reset button and I love being able to help people do so. When a new client calls I give them forms and questionnairesnot the kind that you would fill out at a doctors office but questions about the clients personal life. The theory is if someone takes the time to fill them out then the children and other loved ones can read these forms to remember and learn things about that person who they may or may not have known. Simply put if someone doesnt undertake this type of exercise when putting together an estate plan then when Estate planning has many goals most of which involve money in some way. Yet money can be fleeting. A lifetime of lessons from experiences memories and relationships from those we love are far more lingering and valuable. These voluminous forms and questionnaires help in several ways. First of all minor children who stand to inherit a substantial sum of money may not know the family history or even who is in it. They may be approached by someone introducing themselves as a long-lost relative who has no such status. If your children dont have a family tree or history recorded it may be hard to know whats true and what isnt. Secondlytheygiveclosure. Should your estate give a particular sentimental item to one child but not another the second child may feel slighted. If you explain the reasons why then the children may understand. After a certain point they cant go back and ask why. Your family will also get to know you better. Theyll know better not only what you did for a living but what challenges you overcame what you did for fun what experiences you had to share and so on. Some things are easier to write down than to explain face-to-face and this gives the writer such an opportunity. Next the completed forms give perspective. If you lost a grandparent when you were in your 20s you may wonder later in life what your late grandparent was going through when he or she was 40 or 50. Having these forms can be like having someones diary. Most importantly youll give yourself the opportunity to reflect. Children will eventually grow up and move out of the house we hope. In order to maintain balance after they leave we have to find some way to fill the void. Reflecting on what we have done in the past may lead us to realize what we havent had time to do and open up a world of choices. Soif you feel like life is moving pretty fast it might be time to play a little hooky and go to a baseball game. Just be sure youre ready to be on the jumbo screen like Ferris Bueller Reach Colin Smith at colinsmithlaw.com. by Colin Smith Living Trusts Trust Administration Asset Protection Wills Probate Living Wills Business Representation Free Initial Personal Consultation Night and Weekend Appointments Available PROTECT THEM TODAY...AND ALWAYS 5400 L B J F R E E WAY S U I T E 1200 DA L L A S T E X A S 75240 972.773.9095 C O L I N S M I T H L A W . C O M 18 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 When Divorce Happens MAINTAINING BALANCE WITHIN THE FAMILY by Kristin Cicciarelli Sometimes divorce is unavoidable no matter how much resistance from one or both spouses. Even worse it can be mentally emotionally and financially devastating not just for the couple but for their children too. However while divorce is rarely easy its impact doesnt have to last forever. Once the first necessary steps have been taken there are opportunities for the family to continue in a positive albeit different way. For guidance on where divorcing couples can best get started we spoke with Board Certified Dallas Family Law attorney Jeffrey Anderson. A partner at Orsinger Nelson Downing Anderson LLP with offices in Dallas Frisco and San Antonio Andersons 20-plus years in practice have provided him with a wealth of knowledge and expertise on the subject. However it might be his own divorce a few years ago that had the biggest impact. He commented Though it didnt change the way I practice law it definitely gave me a different perspective of how divorce impacts the family. goodADVICE GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 19 TELLING THE KIDS In a perfect world most experts will advise a divorcing couple to sit down with each other and work out as many details as possible before bringing their children into the loop. Kids of all ages some more than others will naturally experience anxiety when they learn their parents are divorcing. However according to Anderson if parents have already determined answers to questions such as Where will we live and Where will we spend the holidays it can significantly help reduce that anxiety. Of course it cant always happen that way. Perhaps one parent has already walked out or begun a new relationship before the kids have been told about it. Sometimes divorce happens more like a shot than a rolling ball Anderson says In cases like this I suggest clients talk to a professional counselor someone who works with kids in their childrens age group before telling them whats going on. However even if one parent has already left Its best to tell their kids about the divorce together. Kids need to hear that its not their fault and that their parents will always love them no matter what he says. BALANCING EMOTIONS While many people going through a divorce will tell you its one of the most difficult things theyve experienced the guilt associated with their children is nothing short of heartbreaking Anderson says. Everyones different he adds. And while parents need to give themselves some time to deal with their emotions I know that time is also limited in this situation. Parents cant put their kids feelings on the backburner until theyve dealt with their own. For this reason and others he recommends counseling for the entire family as soon as possible. Counseling can be a tremendous help in providing the necessary tools to get through the process. But youre still going to have to do the work he says. A counselor cant do it for you. In some cases clients require medication to help manage their emotions but worry that it might come out in any divorce-related court proceedings. Anderson says Its better to take medication if it helps you care for yourself and your kids than be unable to do so. Dont be afraid to discuss medication options with your doctor and even your lawyer. BALANCING LIFE When parents agree to work together they often find its easier trading off responsibilities and giving each parent a little break. While we all know the health benefits of getting proper rest eating well and exercising regularly keeping a normal routine can be difficult during divorce but it is certainly important. While it shouldnt be at your kids expense this is actually a great time to start doing the things youve said you want to do Anderson suggests. He also suggests adding more participation in faith meditation or other activities the parents find meaningful. MOVING FORWARD While theres no perfect time for divorce maintaining a sense of balance within the family can make life less stressful for everyone involved. Its easy to understand how parents can get so wrapped up in their own hurt that they lose sight of whats important. However if they remember to put the kids best interests first seek help with their own raw emotions rather than dumping them on the kids and maintain as much balance as possible theyll have a much better chance of getting past the hurt and staying balanced in the areas that are important. Reach Jeff Anderson at ONDAfamilylaw.com. Parents cant simply put their kidsfeelings on the backburner until theyve dealt with their own. While parents need to give themselves time to deal with their own emotions that time is not unlimited and the needs of their children must be a priority. - Jeff Anderson ONDA Family Law goodADVICE Sometimes divorce happens more like ashotthan arolling ball. In cases like this I suggest clients talk to a professional counselor someone who works with kids in their childrens age group before telling them whats going on. - Jeff Anderson ONDA Family Law 20 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodADVICE 6 DOS AND DONTS TO KEEP KIDS OUT OF THE CONFLICT Torn Between Two Parents Children caught in the middle between two conflicted parents is challenging to say the least. Parenting can already be quite daunting. Then throwing in high conflict between two adults it becomes sometimes beyond daunting. Mistakes are made. Troubles are magnified. Emotions are in high engine. And the price that gets paid too often is the child caught between the two adults. by Dr. Dean Beckloff DONT 1Dont talk about the other parent the other parents friends relatives or other relationships to the child.Thatll put the child right in the uncomfortable middle. 2Dont talk about the divorce or any other grown up business to the child.They do not need to know the truth as either parent sees it. Above all dont blame the other parent for the divorce or for anything to the child. 3Dont talk about money or child support to the child regardless of their age. Ive had high school students put in the uncomfortable position of having to hear how the other parent needs to pay for gas or whatever through the support given. 4Dont block visits or prevent the child from speaking to the parent by phone or make the child feel bad when with the other parent. Along with that dont ask questions that put the child in the position of feeling as if they are telling on the other parent. 5Dont send verbal or written messages to the other parent through the child. 6Dont ask the child where he or she wants to live.The child has two homes where they can be loved and cared for and where they can be themselves. DO 1Do realize that the child has two parents who each love him or her. No parent is perfect and you can support the relationship regardless of the flaws. 2Do allow the child to be the child.They do not need to know adult business and realize kids like to know adult business. But keep the child the child including teens. If you feel they are listening to adult business and they probably are change any topic that you may be discussing. 3Do realize that the child has two homes. Refrain from calling your home the home.CallbothhomestheirhometheirhomewithMomandtheirhomewith Dad. 4Dobeflexibleabouttimesthechildcanbeateitherhomeoratafriendshouse Especially as kids grow up they more and more are seeking to establish their own life. Dont get in the way of that natural and normal process. Be on their side of growing up and expanding their lives. 5Doacknowledgetheotherparentbepoliteandcordialespeciallyinpublicevents likepracticesandgamesorotherevents.Treatyourco-parentwithrespect.Doing lesswillmortifyyourchildwillputtheminthemiddlecreatetensionsthatthechild does not need and at the very least will do nothing to demonstrate good manners. Be polite. 6Do allow your kids to love both parents without restraint and to see each parent as much as possible. Be flexible even when it is not part of the regular schedule. And finally get help. Read books there are any number of good books now that can help parents avoid the pitfalls. Consult with a therapist who has experience in working with families who function in two homes. When there are mental health issues in one of the parents that is all the more reason to seek help. The kid or teen needs an outlet where they simply dont have to worry about who they might offend in other words a neutral party. Allofthiscanassurethatyourkidshaveagreatchanceofgrowing up well happily adjusted and that they will learn from these experiences in life. What does research tell us It tells us that kids dont have to suffer dont have to go through life with problems hanging over them from a divorce. But thats only if the conflict can be contained between the two parents and only if the parents can actually co-parent in a business-like manner following the dissolution of the marriage. Thats a tall order. With most of the folks I work with divorce is happening for very real reasons and there is already a lack of being able to communicate. And so it goes the troubled relationship of the adults can trouble the children caught in the cross hairs between the two parents. It doesnt have to be that way Children can not only survive but thrive after a marriage dissolution. The odds that are against the children can be confounded if the two parents are willing to selflessly work on rearing their children. There are a few knowns that we now know that can help in the process. With most of the folks I work with divorce is happening for very real reasons and there is already a lack of being able to communicate. 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Unfortunately people are usually unaware they have the condition until they break a bone unexpectedly. Thats where bone density tests come in. Outpatient facilities like Envision Imaging offer a Bone Mineral Density Scan DEXA which takes about 15 minutes. The DEXA scan provides you and your physician a fracture assessment report which can alert you to problems before you have a fracture and will indicate if you should receive treatment for osteoporosis. Treatment includes osteoporosis medications as well as diet and lifestyle changes to prevent further bone loss. THE DEXA SCAN IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED IFYOU are a post-menopausal woman and not taking estrogen. are a post-menopausal woman who is over 5 feet 7 inches or less than 125 pounds. use medications that are known to cause bone loss including corticosteroids Prednisone various anti-seizure medications Dilantin certain barbiturates or high-dose thyroid replacement drugs. have type 1 diabetes liver disease kidney disease a personal or maternal history of hip fracture or smoking or a family history of osteoporosis. have high bone turnover determined from a urine sample. have an endocrine disorder such as hyperthyroidism or hyperparathyroidism. have had x-ray evidence of vertebral fracture or experienced a fracture after only mild trauma are over the age of 65 for a woman or 70 for a man HOW IS A BONE DENSITY TEST DONE You will lie on your back on a padded table wearing your street clothes or a patient gown. The machine does all the work. It is very open and does not feel closed in. You will not be given any injections or medications for this test. WHERE AND HOW OFTEN SHOULD A BONE DENSITY TEST BE DONE Bone density tests are available at many outpatient imaging facilities such as Envision Imaging Centers. A bone density test is usually done every two years unless otherwise recommended by your physician. More information about the DEXA scan and Envision Imaging can be found at www.envrad.com. By Jeannie Benson Contributor Even as you read this sentence specialized cells in your body are busy destroying old bits of bone and replacing them with new bone. 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For many students on-line education gives them the opportunity to get a degree enhance their career or explore an interest from the comfort of their own home in their pajamas if theyd like. Richland College offers seventeen programs and certificates that can be completed 100 on-line in one to two years. Students can earn an associate degree in arts sciences or applied science as well as certificates designed for everyone from accounting clerks to software application specialists to international businessmen. When you consider the opportunity the flexibility and the affordability these certificate programs and degree programs offer a perfect option for a variety of learners. Susan Long Richlands Dean of Technology Enhanced Learning knows first-hand about online learning. She earned a second Masters degree online and now she teaches online part-time for Richland. Im a big proponent of online learning. It was the right choice for me she says. At the end of a long work day usually the last thing I wanted to do was to go sit in a classroom all night. Online courses allowed her to balance her full-time job and school in a way that worked for her. Online education is available to everyone but it takes the right kind of student. You need to be self-motivated Susan suggests. The average age of someone enrolled in Richlands online program is around 27 a little older than the typical college student. Students will spend an average of four to fourteen hours per week on coursework per class and they need to be able to manage their time wisely. Most of the learning is via readings visuals and videos so if you are an auditory learner and prefer a lot of interaction with your instructor online learning may not be the best fit for you. Who are Richlands online students Many of them are stay-at-home moms who can work from home in between their childrens schedules. Others are full-time employees who need additional credentials to move up at work. A student can even be enrolled in for exampleanAssociatesofAppliedSciences program and be earning certificates in that field along the way to the Associate Degree. Some students are looking to change fields and they might be studying toward a degree in one area while working in another. Even though a student is working from home they are still part of a class. As an institution we want students to interact with each other Susan reports. Courses offer online discussions where students can share ideas and files with other students enrolled in the same program. The online courses follow a schedule to ensure that all students are working together at the same rate. Online education is a tremendous resource and Richlands mission is to guide the Online Learning student on a path paved with quality courses excellent faculty and appropriate resources. It might just be what youre looking for. If you have questions contact rlc-onlineadvisingdcccd.edu. by AliciaWanek Im a big proponent of online learning. At the end of a long work day usually the last thing I wanted to do was to go sit in a classroom all night. - Susan Long Richlands Dean of Technology Enhanced Learning who earned a second Masters degree online Managing Addiction Starts Here. Memorial Hermann Prevention and Recovery Center PaRC is a nationally recognized addiction recovery program located in Houston offering residential and outpatient programs for adolescents and adults. We also offer Intensive Outpatient services in the Dallas area. Our custom-tailored family-centered programs help you or your loved one meet individual treatment goals while getting family members actively involved in recovery. Our adolescent services help your child meet treatment goals while our accredited onsite charter school keeps your child on track academically. 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Individual group and family counseling Call Today 972-392-4040 6750 Hillcrest Plaza Dr. Suite 310 Dallas TX 75230 between Preston and Hillcrest Issues Addressed Self-Esteem Depression Anxiety Self Harm Divorce Family Issues Peer Pressure Difficulty Making Friends Body Image Drugs Sex Alcohol Trauma Social Media the Internet Bullying Most Psychological Disorders Phyllis Bisch M.A. L.P.C. Licensed Professional Counselor www.phyllisbischlpc.com The Girls Group 36 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 THE PRESSURES ON OUR KIDS ON THE ROAD TO SUCCESS Is it a Race to Nowhere By AliciaWanek goodBALANCE Recently I had the opportunity to see a screening of the 2010 documentary Race to Nowhere at Planos Shepton High School and it has dramatically altered the way I look at the demands on my four children. The film is an honest and in-depth look at our societys pressure on our children to achieveand the consequences it is having on their emotional and physical health. Its what we all wantfor our children to be successful adults. We want them to have every opportunity to be all they can be so we encourage them to do their best at school and to participate in sports extracurriculars religious groups and community organizations. The demands on our children are greater than ever. We often think that the better they do the more choices they will have. But at what cost The film suggests that as parents we are encouraging all of this in order to secure our childrens happiness but we may be making them miserable along the way. Dr. Sandy Gluckman a local behavior and health coach says The stress and pressure placed on our kids today is bigger than ever before and will only get more challenging. Dr. Dean Beckloff of the Beckloff Pediatric Behavioral Center agrees. Hes seen big changes in his 25 years working with teens. The pressures are not the same he says and Im convinced our culture has not done a good job at growing our kids. Our teens and pre-teens are handling an amazing amount of stress and parents generally agree that often the culprit is the amount of homework. By the time teens get home from school go to their after-school activities eat dinner and shower theyre not getting to their homework until the time they should probably be getting to bed. In the film Wendy Mogel PhD says teens need 9 to 11 hours of sleep but are getting far fewer. Kids are overscheduled and tired and they are experiencing physical ramifications of the lack of sleep from headaches and stomachaches to joint pain. It becomes a vicious cycle because they are too tired to pay attention and be productive at school which leads to more homework. Dr. Beckloff says the rhythms of sleep are incredibly powerful in helping to manage stress but sleep cant help if teens are not getting it. More concerning in many respects is the emotional ramifications of this stress. Dr. Kenneth Ginsburgh a doctor of adolescent medicine says The driving force for negative behaviors is stress. Today there has been an increase in suicide for the first time in decades and more and more teens are cutting themselves. Frequently these are not the troublemakers but the teens with the 4.0 GPA and the mature social skills. They are overwhelmed by all the demands and react in dramatic ways. Dr. Beckloff reminds us that the teen brain is still in development. The frontal lobe is not finished maturing in an 18-year old and into our mid 20s our brain is still growing to be able to take on stress. We sometimes forget they arent truly young adults. Is there too much homework The film has an obvious bent toward the affirmative. One therapist suggests weve stolen kids 11th and 12th grade years with all of the academic pressures especially from AP courses and college preparation. Repeatedly teens reported they didnt have enough time to sleep or spend time with friends because of the amount Continued on page 74 IS YOUR CHILD ABLE TO HANDLE IT ALLVisit goodlifefamilymag.com for the link to the online Time ManagementActivity to help gauge your childs time. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 37 goodBALANCE ABOUT THE FILM Race to Nowhere is a film that calls us to challengecurrentthinkingabouthowweprepare our children for success. Named by TakePart. com as one of 10 Education Documentaries You Dont Want to Miss Race to Nowhere brings communities together to spark dialogue and galvanize change in Americas schools. Featuring the heartbreaking stories of students across the country who have been pushed to the brink by over-scheduling over-testing and the relentless pressure to achieveRace to Nowhere points to a silent epidemic in our schools. Through the testimony of educators parents and education experts it reveals an education system in which cheating has become commonplace studentshavebecomedisengagedstress-related illness depression and burnout are rampant and young people arrive at college and the workplace unprepared and uninspired. Shown nationwide and internationally in more than 7000 schools universities cinemas hospitals corporations and community centersRace to Nowherehas become the centerpiece of a nationwide grassroots movement for the transformation of education. KATIE COURIC INTERVIEWS DIRECTOR VICKI ABELES AT cbsnews.comvideos katiecouric-race-to-nowhere Over-scheduled stressed-out kids arent just less competitive they are miserable. One study found that 15 of U.S. high school students had seriously considered suicide. This film is a poignant reminder that straight As and high SAT scores are not the Holy Grail. We all want our kids to excel but Id take a happy child over a depressed successany day of the week. - Katie Couric former CBS News Anchor and talk show host SEE MORE AT RACETONOWHERE.COM Katie Couric left with Race to Nowhere directorVicki Abeles during the CBS News interview. Photocourtesyofracetonowhere.com. 38 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodADVICE Can We Talk VITAL CONVERSATIONS FOR PARENTS AND TEENS When children become teenagers communication suddenly includes lots of eye-rolling slammed doors and dramatic closing arguments such asYou just dont understand meSo how do you open the lines of communication with your teen Here are three conversations that may help. by Sierra Sanchez MSSW Contributor CONVERSATION 1 ENGAGE YOUR TEEN WITH NO AGENDACONVERSATIONS A rapid-fire string of questions aimed at a task instruction admonishment or criticism can make teens feel that every conversation with parents has an agenda. We need to cultivate the art of talking with our teens not at them. Try using open-ended questions to encourage real conversation. If you ask questions that can be answered with a simple yes no fine or I dont know youll have a pretty short conversation. Instead ask for an opinion a description or an account of their day. Express genuine interest in hearing more details. Respond positively to encourage elaboration. This encourages them to be honest and open about how they feel. Its a friendly exchange with no underlying agenda. No-agenda conversations build rapport establish trust and help teens feel comfortable talking with parents about any topic. This will come in handy if you ever need to have a more in- depth conversation about things like their emotional health. CONVERSATION 2 CHECK IN WITH ATAGTALK With one in four teens exhibiting symptoms of depression or anxiety its important to be able to talk openly about mental health. As a parent you are likely the first person to notice changes in your teens behavior mood sleep or appetiteand to talk with them about it. If your teen is in emotional or psychological distress you may need to ask more pointed questions to determine the severity of the problem. The simple acronym TAG can help Take it seriously Ask questions and Get help. Take it seriously. Listen. Dont judge. Dont act shocked or angry. Let the teen know that you care and he or she is not alone. Depression and other mental health disorders can be treated. No matter how awful the problems seem they can be worked out. Ask questions. Open the conversation Say Im concerned about you. Whats going on Be specific. Paraphrase what you hear and repeat it back to them. Dig deeper. How long have you been feeling this way Have you felt so bad that youve thought of harming yourself Are you thinking about ending your life Do you have a plan Ask if you can help. Will you let me help you Will you promise not to harm yourself until weve found some help We need to cultivate the art of talking with our teens not at them. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 39 Know the signs Changes in appetite weight sleep or mood A sense of hopelessness helplessness feelings of guilt or worthlessness Persistent sadness and withdrawal from friends family andor activities Irritability restlessness agitation loss of energy and difficulty concentrating Risky behaviors including self-injury running away substance abuse and sexual promiscuity Take these steps Offer help and support Listenwithoutlecturinginvitethemtoplananintervention with you Validate feelings Avoid pushing and asking too many questions but trust your instincts If the situation seems serious seek professional help Get help. If the situation is not life-threatening encourage your teen to talk to a mental health professional and offer to go along for support. If the situation is life-threatening call 911 or a crisis help line or go to the nearest emergency room. Do not leave your teen alone until help is available. Take away anything that could be harmful. Save the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number in your cell phone 1-800-273- TALK 8255. Its available 247. Talking openly about it is the first step to getting help. It also provides an opportunity to talk with your teen about how to stay mentally well and how to watch for signs of depression in their friends. CONVERSATION 3 KNOW THE RIGHT THINGS TO SAY WHEN A TEEN IS STRUGGLING Lets be honest all of us probably say the wrong thing sometimes. Making these simple changes in the words you use can make your teen feel that you understand and care. Teens just want to feel supported accepted and loved. RESOURCES HELP LINE National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 A24-hourcrisishotlinethatwillhelpyouconnect withmentalhealthresourcesinyourarea. WEBSITES Here ForTexas A searchable database of mental health providers organizations resources and information related to youth mental health in NorthTexas.HereForTexas.com The Grant Halliburton Foundation More information on teen mental health peer support groups for parents and resources. GrantHalliburton.com Okay to Say A community-based movement initiated by the Meadows Mental Health Policy Institute to increase public awareness about how mental healthissuesaffectus. okaytosay.org National Institute of Mental Health nimh.nih.gov National Alliance on Mental Illness NAMI.org BOOKS TheFiveLoveLanguagesofTeens by Gary Chapman HowtoTalkSoKidsWillListenandListenSoKids WillTalk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish DEPRESSION WHAT HURTS Its all in your head. We all go through times like this. You have so much to live forwhy do you want to die What do you want me to do I cant change your situation. Just snap out of it. Look on the bright side. Youll be fine. Stop worrying. Heres my advice WHAT HELPS I know you have a real illness and thats what causes these thoughts and feelings. I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel but I care about you and want to help. You are important to me.Your life is important to me. Tell me what I can do now to help you. You might not believe it now but the way youre feeling will change. You are not alone in this. Im here for you. Talk to me. Im listening. These are the first steps toward opening lines of communication with your teenager. Every teen is different but parents can help guide them by establishing open honest and caring communication. The more effort and practice you put into it the more instinctive and spontaneous your communication skills will become. Resources www.DBSAlliance.org Editors Note Sierra Sanchez is the Senior Program Coordinator at Grant Halliburton Foundation a Dallas nonprofit organization committed to teen and young adult mental health and suicide prevention. See page 7 for her bio or go to granthalliburton.com 40 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTO KNOW We live in a fairly privileged relatively low-stress time in history at least in terms of our day-to-day lives as Americans. Though there are definite exceptions many of us dont spend a lot of time worrying whether our children will have enough to eat access to schools or will be drafted for military service in a war zone. We live in a time when children are expected to graduate from high school and college is seen as a necessary step for achieving any long-term success in life. As a result much of childhood can seem like a race to college filled with building a strong resume that increases the chances of being accepted to the perfect school. Thus the very nature of childhoodand parentinghas changed. Families have become product-oriented organizations whose primary output is the success-ready child. As poignantly demonstrated in the documentary Race to Nowhere children are now raised to meet very narrow definitions of success. They measure their accomplishments in numbersstandardized test scores GPAs numbers of division titles batting averages and UIL ribbons class rankings and college acceptances. This puts all measures of worth in a position to be compared with other numbers. We have created a society where kids become unnecessarily and I would argue unhealthily competitive with their peers. In a world framed by bad good better and best children who are just developing their competencies at communicating with others learning how to learn adjusting to their changing bodies and understanding themselves have become a very stressed generation. We have lost the ability to tolerate variability in the progression of childhood. Yet we know that child development is uneven from person to person and even within the same child. A late bloomer may not develop the muscle strength to hit a home run until late in high school long after the varsity roster has closed. A precocious musician may become pigeonholed as a future concert pianist long before discovering joy in playing electric guitar in a garage band. The former is at risk for self-esteem problems after losing a spot on the team. The latter is at risk for burnout and resentment from not getting to explore other interests. Both likely spent hours pushing themselves to perform better possibly at the expense of other experiences and in the end may say For what As parents of these children we may be guilty of pushing them too hard. Or on the other hand we may be accused of not supporting their dreams enough. There is no right answer here. But we can also blame societys expectations. If your son doesnt take the extra hitting lessons if he doesnt make the select team by 7th grade his baseball career may be over. Only the best get to keep playing at some point there are no rec teams for kids who just like to play ball even if they arent great at it. If we allow the musician to take a break there is the fear that others will surpass her and then the scholarship opportunity goes to the more recent winner of the piano competition. If we push our kids to stay on the rat wheel are we helping or hurting And if we allowforce them to step off then what As a parent I often feel stuck between a rock and a hard place wanting to be brave enough not to go along with the system while fearing my child will miss out. How can we help our kids Start by redefining what you want for your child. Most adults I speak with say I just want my child to be happy. But then I ask what that really means. Does it mean material wealth Having access to the best opportunities Most when pressed tell me it means being content with their lives having meaningful relationships and having meaningful work. Certainly having one more award or one more division title isnt required to be that kind of person. Finding the Right Kind of Balance By Dr. Susan Sugerman Contributor The parent-child relationship is one of the most essential elements for genuine success in todays children. One of the greatest responsibilities parents have is to raise their children so they can leave the nest and become autonomous and successful members of society. Overparenting or what I refer to as loving our children to a fault is one of the greatest detriments to our children. Madeline Levine statesDont do for your kids what they can already do dont do for your kids what they can almost do because thats where they have those successful failures.Being a loving reliable available and consistent parent are some of the most essential qualities for a strong healthy parent-child connection. Following are some helpful tips for raising successful well-adjusted children in a competitive high-pressure world Take time to connect DAILY Allow them to make mistakes Have family meals Listen to their feelings and ideas Spend quality time together uninterrupted by technology Practice mindful stress reduction Allow opportunities for problem solving Teach emotional intelligence Foster resilience Focus on character not numbers Dont compare your children to others Accept your childrens weaknesses as valuable to developing their sense of self Nurture creativity Play ContributionmadebyMikiJohnstonLCSW.SheisanaffiliateofGirlstoWomen HealthandWellness. continued on page 74 PARENTING TIPS FOR GENUINE SUCCESS GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 41 WE ENCOURAGE CREATIVITY AND INNOVATION by allowing them to have hobbies recreational activities that they find enjoyable but in which they dont feel pressure to excel. We help them learn that the world is bigger than themselves and that they have a meaningful role in it by encouraging them to volunteer or do service for others in need. - Dr. Susan Sugerman Girls To Women Health and Wellness 42 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTO KNOW My Child Is Hurting. What Do I Do From the moment of birth we have so many dreams for our children. We want them to be happy confident and smart. We want them to feel so good about who they are about life and about their relationships with others. We want them to feel the joy of being successful and achieving their goals. Oh I could go on and on about what we wish and dream for our kids. And with these dreams come our fears and anxieties. We never want them to feel sad or afraid. We certainly dont want them to doubt how talented and special they are. The problem is that life is not perfect and they are going to have experiences we wish they did not have. Avoid theStress Trap As a parent what can you do when your kids hurt Because the truth is that when they hurt you hurtsometimes even more than they do Empathy compassion and caring are good but only in healthy proportions and done in a positive way. Heres why when you care too much and feel your kids pain too much it causes anxiety for you and for the kids. Being stressed hurts you physically mentally and emotionally and causes you to react to your childrens hurt in unhelpful ways. Stress causes you to say and do things you may regret later. The last thing you want is to respond ineffectively to your hurting child and get the response I wish I hadnt told you or You dont get it leave me alone So how do you avoid becoming stressed when your child is hurting How do you respond in ways that help you and your kids grow stronger from lifes challenges You must balance what you can do for you and what you can do for your kids. Begin First with YOU 1Understand that you have two responsibilities the first is to deal with your own feelings in a stress relieving life enhancing creative way. And the second is to help your child do the same. by Dr. Sandy Gluckman Contributor 2Remember if you are stressed your child will pick up on it. This will trigger more stress for them. 3Before reacting take a step back from the situation to calm your thoughts and your feelings. I know that is easier said than done I have spent decades studying strategies and techniques helping parents learn to do this. Visit my website ParentsTakeCharge.com for an abundance of information or join me at one of my upcoming free webinars or small group seminars. Once you master the ability to de-stress you will literally have calmed your brain chemistry and will be able to think creatively and positively. Have Healing Conversations Now lets look at how you can help your child deal with difficult situations. 1Always remember that each of these challenges is an amazing moment to help your children connect with the inner strength that they all have but may not be using at the moment. 2Totally avoid lecturing defending explaining analyzing or pontificating. Hurting kids dont want to hear this stuff. 3Be there to listenreally listen. It is helpful to gently solicit more of their story and their feelings. 4Let them know that their feelings are totally valid. Let them feel it and work through it with calmness and compassion. Darling I know its really hard to feel left out. 5Dont try to change their feelings. Dont try to make them feel better. This will enrage them. More importantly it will hold them back from growing stronger. 6Create a picture for your children of how they can stand tall and be proud of the amazing special people they are. Remind them of exactly what it is that makes them special. You are caring smart funny and creative... But do not do this until they have released their feelings and are ready to hear this. 7As the days go by gently keep remind them that they can do this that they do not have to be diminished by this experience. Your teens will handle the curve balls that come their way in exactly the same way they see you do it. Be a role model for them of how to face tough times calmly and creatively. 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Heres what they had to say Front Door Whats the first thing someone notices when they show up on your doorstep The front door is the gateway to your home if its in poor condition it makes a bad first impression. Realtor Donna Leibow of The Leibow Team at Keller Williams Central in Richardson stresses curb appeal is the most important factor that draws attention to a house. That includes the landscape and the homes exterior. Rosa Velasco-Klinghoffer owner of San Miguel Ironworks in Dallas agrees. She says that a wrought iron door can add curb appeal beauty and value to your property. The amazing thing is when we replace the door its an immediate update says Velasco-Klinghoffer. People can get a lot more for their home its a great investment. She adds that metal doors are ideal for aesthetics and functionality. Metal doors are pre- hung with their own jamb so they dont shift warp or expand with settling of the house or weather. They are also energy efficient and the glass panels can be opened without opening the door so air can flow while maintaining security. Kitchen and Bathroom Updates For a measurable return on your investment update the kitchen and master bathroom. People want an updated kitchen and master bath Leibow says. It can definitely increase the value of your home. However she warns that this can be a double-edged sword and advises that if you plan to sell sooner than later do not install anything extreme because the new owners tastes may not match yours. When updating a kitchen or bath consider more than just aesthetics look for energy-saving appliances and fixtures. An energy-efficient home will save you money now and is a valuable and marketable asset in the future. hgtv.com THE TOP 3 THINGS TO INCREASE YOUR HOMES BEAUTY AND VALUE by Karyn Brodsky The amazing thing is when we replace the door its an immediate update. - Rosa Velasco-Klinghoffer owner San Miguel Ironworks Modern styles are a huge trend says San Miguel owner Rosa Velasco-Klinghoffer. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 47 Flooring Want to pump up what your home is worth Just look downat the floor Leibow says updating floors is another home improvement with a payback. New floors can give your home a fresh new look. Replace flooring in all areas that could possible get wet with hard surfaces such as tile stone wood or vinyl plank says Steven Pidgeon CEO of Star Floors in Dallas. That means the kitchen bath laundry and entryway. Pidgeon notes the latest trend is luxury vinyl tiles and luxury vinyl planks that have the look of tile and wood yet are durable cleanable and waterproof. Theyre very realistic the industry has really gotten good at this. Pidgeon also recommends eliminating any evidence of the prior owners habits or experiences. For instance remove carpeting that holds cigarette smoke or pet odors as well as that which shows a foot traffic pattern. Replace with a neutral color for the best resale potential. Whatever improvements you choose to make remember they can not only make an impact on your homes resale value but also offer you immediate gratification and enjoyment. Resources The Leibow Team theleibowteam.com 972.897.7638 San Miguel Ironworks sanmiguelironworks.com 800.725.4610 Star Floors starfloors.com 972.503.7827 Replace flooring in all areas that could possible get wet with hard surfaces such as tile stone wood or vinyl plank. That means the kitchen bath laundry and entryway. - Steven Pidgeon CEO Star Floors Curb appeal is the most important factor that draws attention to a house. - Realtor Donna Leibow of The Leibow Team Homes are defined by their details furniture color layout but art is what really makes the homeowners space unique and vibrantsays Karen Shannon of K.Shannon Interiors. Finding just the right pieces can be challenging but the search is half the fun. We found a hidden gem in far North Dallas that could make your search easier. Artists Showplace offers an extraordinary collection of fine art by local national and international artists in an airy 12000 square foot showroom. Art is a reflection of who we are and what we loveanditcantransportyoutoatimeorplacethatisfilledwithgreatmemories says Shannon. Enjoy the search and the creative process of transforming your home piece by piece. EditorsNote Artists Showplaceoffersclasses forbuddingartistsas well. Checktheirwebsite forclassinformation specialeventsandshows. theartistsshowplace.com Whether your style is contemporary traditional or eclectic here you are sure to find a conversation piece that both impresses and inspires from original oils and watercolors and unique wood sculptures to stunning glasswork ranging from the elegant to the whimsical. MAKE YOUR HOME A SHOWPLACE byTriciaWhite Managing Editor 48 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodLIVING HOT Gear for COOL Backyards TAKE I T OUTS I DE by Karyn Brodsky Whats the best way to keep track of your kids this summer Make your backyard the place to be and their friends will want to hang out there. Its a win-win you always know where your kids are and you get to add some fun outdoor accessories to your home. Start by inviting kids over to watch a movieoutside Ann OBlenes Broker-Associate Performance Partners Group REMax Dallas Suburbs recommends installing outdoor movie screens or dropdown TVs. Audio speakers can also be installed throughout the backyard for a surround-sound effect. The more you create entertainment outside and make it comfortable the better she says. Keep the kids cool with outdoor misters while they take in the feature. They make a huge difference in the hot Texas summer as they add to the quality of enjoying the outdoors says OBlenes. ARE YOUR KIDS ALWAYS HUNGRY Cook up pizzas in an outdoor pizza oven. Pat Wilson Manager of Ed Kellum Son in Dallas says outdoor pizza ovens are increasingly popular.There are built-ins with a chimney and there are the counter top types. Treat thirsty kids to some Icee-like drinks made with your very own sonic ice machine. Wilson adds that there are machines that make different types of ice for a variety of drinks including cubes and larger top hat-shaped ice. A hot new item is a built-in food and drink holder that rests on the counter top in the outdoor kitchen area. Wilson says its ideal for serving the kids as it has a drainable ice trough and holders for drinks fruit and other snacks. As for grown-ups portable or built in fire pits dont use much space and are a good alternative to a fireplace says OBlenes. She adds that a mosquito misting system is also a good investment especially in light of the Zika Virus threat. A mosquito misting system features jets in the yard which spray a natural liquid that kills mosquitos. Simply press the button before guests arrive to be bug free says OBlenes. I think this will be the wave of the future. Treat thirsty kids to some Icee-like drinks made with your very own sonic ice machine. A mosquito misting system features jets in the yard which spray a natural liquid that kills mosquitos. Simply press the button before guests arrive to be bug free. I think this will be the wave of the future. - Anne OBlenes Broker-Associate Performance Partners ReMax dallas suburbs 972.898.6600 facebook.comRealtyPerformancePartners A Commitment to Exemplary Service Performance Partners Extraordinary home in guard-gated Villages of Stonebriar Park. Over 6300 sq. feet with all the amenities desired including fabulous media room. Priced at 1250000. Ann OBlenes Elizabeth Ritch Passion...Pursuit...Performance. SCHEDULE A VISIT OR SEE MORE AT WWW.REALTYPERFORMANCEPARTNERS.COM. Beautiful craftsmanship in this Oakley Custom in Kings Ridge. Large corner lot with plenty of room for pool and play yard. Priced at 467500. goodLIVING ARE YOU SERVING DRINKS TO ADULTS Single and dual beer taps are popular for outdoor use. Some are portable with casters that can be removed when the beer tap is brought inside for the winter says Wilson. There are also margarita machines and other adult beverage makers and for the real outdoor enthusiast Wilson says a new trend is the installation of artificial grass especially to create a putting green. There is a myriad of options for gadgets and devices to create the backyard of your dreams and attract guests both younger and older. After all who doesnt want to have the coolest backyard in the neighborhood Be the go-to house with an outdoor pizza oven. There are built-ins with a chimney and there are the counter top types - Pat Wilson Manager of Ed Kellum Son in Dallas Single and dual beer taps are part of the outdoor collection at Ed Kellum Son. 50 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTO KNOW 7 TIPS TO KEEP YOUR PET SAFE in the Dog Days of Summer Warm summer weather gives you more chances to hang outside with your pet whether youre playing fetch at the park swimming in the pool or going for a jog together. However the heat and the humidity pose some special dangers for your pet during the summer including heat stroke sunburn dehydration and burned paw pads. So how can you keep your pet safe in the Texas heat this summer Follow these safety tips 1WATCH OUT FOR HOT VEHICLES Never leave your pet unattended inside a parked car not even for just a few minutes. On an 85-degree day even with the window cracked open temperatures inside a car can soar to over 120 degrees in under 10 minutes according to the SPCA ofTexas.This quickly boosts your pets body temperature which can lead to heatstroke or even deathexplains Dr. Brian Benjamin of Ohio Drive Animal Hospital in Plano. 2PROVIDE UNLIMITED ACCESS TO FRESH COLD WATER. Pets can quickly become dehydrated especially when its hot outside. Make sure your pet can get a drink of fresh water both inside and outside. Tip Add a few ice cubes to the bowl to keepthewatercold. 3MAKE SURE YOUR PET HAS A SHADY RETREAT outside when the sun blazes overhead. If you dont have a porch overhang or tree a doghouse could work as long as it has good airflowpoints out Dr. Benjamin.But if you cantprovideashadyescapefromthesundontleaveyourpetoutformorethan a few minutes. Even with a window cracked open on an 85-degree day temperatures inside a car can soar to over 120 degrees in under 10 minutes according to the SPCA of Texas. This quickly boosts your pets body temperature which can lead to heatstroke or even death. - Dr. Brian Benjamin Ohio Drive Animal Hospital Would you trust a face like this to just anyone We wouldnt either. Thats why we are committed to being part of your extended family Ohio Drive Animal Hospital is a full service veterinary hospital with an all-star team We take great pride in providing exemplary customer service paired with outstanding medical care ensuring that your furry friends are truly in the best hands. 1101 Ohio Drive Suite 104 Plano TX 75093 ohiodriveanimalhospital.com 972-599-2224 Free exam offer valid only for well-pet visits. For new customers only. Not valid for ill pets or combined with other offers. Come meet Dr. Benjamin and his team CALL US AT 972-599-2224 TO SCHEDULE YOUR APPOINTMENT Mention Good Life Family Magazine and get a FREE well-pet exam 4EXERCISEDURINGCOOLERHOURS.WhenyoutakeyourpetforawalkDr.Benjaminsuggests going early in the morning or close to sundown when the temperature isnt at its peak. Also bringing water makes a huge difference in helping your pet keep himself coolhe says. goodTO KNOW 5WALKYOURPETSONDIRTORGRASS.Sensitivepawpadscanquickly burn with prolonged exposure to a hot surface such as sidewalks or an asphalt parking lot.To avoid injury dont let your pet linger on hot surfaces when you take him for a walk. Lots of dogs come into our hospital with blisters on their paw padssays Dr. Benjamin.I see this a lot in dogs who dont go outside very often. But if you take them frequently the bottoms of their paws should get callouses which toughen them up so they can withstand extreme temperatures a bit better. 6APPLY A PET-FRIENDLY SUNSCREEN. Just like humans dogs with thin or light- colored coats can get sunburn especially on their ears and noses. Dr. Benjamin adds that in addition to sunburn this puts pets at increased risk for certain types of cancer. His advicePut sunscreen on your dog if he has a thin or light-colored coat and is going to be outside for an extended period of time. Whatever sunscreen youd put on a baby would be gentle enough for your pet. 7WATCH OUT FOR SUMMER PET MYTHS. If you think you should shave your dog this summer to keep him cool think again.Its a myth that grooming dogs especially shaving them keeps them cool explains Dr. Benjamin. Unlike people dogs dont cool themselves through their skin but through panting. Leaving the fur longer acts like an insulator. WARNING SIGNS OF HEATSTROKE If your pet cant stand up or collapses is panting disoriented vomiting has diarrhea or is having seizures contact your veterinarian immediately. Speed and quality of treatment can make the difference between life and death. Source Dr. Brian Benjamin of Ohio Drive Animal Hospital in Plano. 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This poses several sticky situations for parents Should you let your kids sleep in or wake them up Should you make them be productive or let them just chill out Should you have the same expectations for tweens teens and home-for-the-summer college kids by Lisa A. Beach STRIKE A BALANCE Once you and your kids agree to a reasonable wake time in the summer then what Before your kids start binge- watching movies on Netflix and engaging in text-a-thons with their friends set up some ground rules on the expectations youve got for their free time. Whether you put a limit on screen time or adopt a work-first play-later mentality to ensure they take care of their chores and responsibilities make sure everyones on the same page about how summer will play out. Your kids need to strike a balance between chilling out and staying engaged this summer. But what can you do to help them find this balanceand keep yourself sane in the process LETS START WITH SLEEP According to the National Sleep Foundation teens need to get about 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night to function best. But since theyre probably staying up later on summer nights their normal routines are off-kilter. Even though it might rattle parents to watch summer mornings slip away while teens snooze until noon or later should parents let them sleep in a bit Its best for teens to have a consistent sleep schedule during the summer according to Lisa J. Meltzer Ph.D. CBSM Associate Professor of Pediatrics at National Jewish Health and a National Sleep Foundation Education Scholar. For many teens that will mean staying up late and sleeping in late. However some teens have a summer job or summer school which may prevent them from sleeping in too late. So whats a sleepy teen to do Meltzer advises keeping to a consistent sleep schedule as much as possible. For example if teens need to wake by 800 a.m. on Monday Wednesday and Friday then on the other days they should sleep no later than 900 a.m. Its best for teens to have a consistent sleep schedule during the summer. For many teens that will mean staying up late and sleeping in late. - Dr. Lisa J. Meltzer National Jewish Health GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 55 goodBALANCE MIDDLE SCHOOL KIDS As parents you can help bridge the gap between the end of one school year and the beginning of the next without imposing a summer school mentality. For starters look into summer programs day camps and enrichment opportunities that kids can explore advises Rob Lundien a spokesperson for the American School Counselor Association which supports school counselors efforts to help students focus on academic career and social emotional development. In addition to structured programs try some of these ideas to keep your middle schoolers engaged this summer Work on life skills. In just a few more years your kids will be heading off to college. Will they know how to cook a meal wash their clothes clean the toilet vacuum and budget their money These all take lots of practice so why not let your kids bone up on life skills this summer Teach them what they dont know how to do like a load of laundry then ask them to practice this skill regularly like changing and washing their bed sheets every weekend. Age-appropriate skills they can tackle now include babysitting menu planning cooking making minor household repairs doing the laundry gardening and saving money toward a short-term goal like purchasing a new app for their phone. Read. Take a trip to your local library and give your kids free reign to pick out books that pique their interest. Then ask them to read a set amount each day such as one chapter 10 pages or 15 minutes. If theyre reluctant you could make reading a prerequisite for earning screen time. But the key is to let them pick books they want to read. Foster a hobby. Do you have a budding photographer inventor computer programmer interior designer chef musician or woodworker Get the resources your kids need to pursue their passions. Borrow books from the library invest in some basic equipment sign them up for a specialty summer camp or watch YouTube tutorials together. Summer offers a perfect time to explore hobbies and pursue passions. Tackle a fun project. Maybe your kids have been begging to update the look of their bedrooms now that theyre almost teenagers. Let them say good-bye to their little-kid themed rooms and plan out a fresh update. They can pick out new paint colors help refurbish a piece of furniture learn how to recover a throw pillow or play around with digital photo-editing tools to create a poster-sized collage to print and hang. Besides getting a bedroom-makeover kids get hands-on opportunities to learn how to paint a room sew a fabric pillow cover sand down furniture or use photo-editing software. See Page 59 for GLFs Suggested Summer Reading. Let them say good-bye to their little-kid themed rooms and plan out a fresh update. Besides getting a bedroom- makeover kids get hands-on opportunities to learn how to paint a room sew a fabric pillow cover sand down furniture or use photo- editing software. 56 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodBALANCE HIGH SCHOOL TEENS High school kids have four summers to prepare themselves for life after graduation. While they might look at summers like their last hurrah before adulthood perhaps they shouldnt spend their days parked in front of their video game console or hanging out with friends all the time. How can high schoolers make the most of their summers Families might want to connect first with their students schoolcounselorsinthespringtoseewhatsummeropportunities and resources have crossed their desks Lundien points out. For example he receives information on programs such as job fairs summer internships and SAT-prep courses. In addition to programs offered by local schools and communities high schoolers can try some of these ideas Get a job. Working even on a part-time basis racks up the skills your teens will need in their future careers. Besides putting extra cash in your teens pockets part-time jobs can teach them responsibility accountability to someone besides mom and dad a good work ethic time management teamwork assertiveness interpersonal communication and a host of other life skills. Plus when it comes time to ask someone to write a letter of recommendation for a college application or scholarship theyve already got a built-in reference. Volunteer. Doing good not only feels good but it also helps teens get outside of themselves. At a time when theyre often wrapped up in their own teen angst looking at their community from the perspective of How can I help shifts teens mindsets and helps them see the bigger picture. Volunteering also offers a great way to start networking which could open the door for career exploration job shadowing and part-time jobs. Many colleges and scholarship committees look for well-rounded teens who serve their community so volunteering will help them stand out when theyre ready to apply. Plus volunteering can serve as a great eye-opener for students in terms of where their passion lies. In fact sometimes its a quick way to gauge whether or not they want to continue down a certain career path. Ive had students who have volunteered in a local hospital and realized very quickly after seeing some of the things that go on that it wasnt for them cites Lundien. And it was good that they found it out now before they went off to college. Prepareforcollege.Althoughthelastthingteens might want to think about during the summer is preparing for high-stakes testing or writing a college scholarship essay summer might actually be the best time to tackle these time-consuming tasks. During the school year students manage quiteaheavyschedulebetweenclasseshomework club meetings sports practice volunteering part- time jobs and other after-school activities. Bytakingasummertestprepcourseorworking on scholarship applications in July and August students can lighten the workload they face during the pressure-filled school year according to Varun Tewari owner of Victory Step Test Prep. Tewari suggests 40 to 50 total hours of test prep to maximize test scores. He points out that summerwithout school studies and extracurricular activities getting in the wayis by far the best time to study for these tests. Visit colleges. With time for extended trips summer offers up a great opportunity to visit college campuses as a family. Let your middle schoolers tag along as their older siblings check out a potential college. Ive even spoken to several families who started going on college visits when their kids were still in middle school just getting them on a college campus maybe tagging along as their older siblings checked out a college Lundien points out. High school flies by so quickly and juniors and seniors feel so pressured with SAT or ACT tests while theyre busy during the school year. Any of the homework that families can do early on will take off a lot of that pressure down the road when the student is a senior. By taking a summer test prep course or working on scholarship applications in July and August students can lighten the workload they face during the pressure-filled school year. - Varun Tewari Victory Step Test Prep GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 57 HOME-FOR-THE-SUMMER COLLEGE STUDENTS After spending even one semester away at college your kids will find it a bit of a struggle to come back home and follow your rules like when they were younger. Plus even though theyre now in college your kids might still need you to light a productivity fire under them during summer break. How can you strike a good balance between honoring their newfound independence motivating them to keep moving forward and asking them to abide by your family rules Adjust expectationsyours and theirs. Whether its cooking a meal when youre pressed for time running a few errands while youre at work or giving their younger siblings a ride ask your college-age kids to help out while theyre at home. Just because they dont pay rent and dont live there full-time anymore doesnt mean they cant earn their keep when they do come home. On the flip side theyre not little kids anymore so you cant impose all of the same rules you used to. Have frank discussions with your young adults about curfews bringing home a significant other to spend the night drinking and other age-appropriate scenarios to avoid any surprises. Start a business. By now many college-age kids have had summer jobs but they were probably more of the retailfast-food variety. This time around see if they can make their own mark in the business world through an entrepreneurial venture. Perhaps theyre majoring in marketing at college. Could they pair up with a local bar to help them better promote a summer music series or help a restaurant better market their mom-and-pop eatery If theyre studying web design could they use their digital skills to help a local business revamp its outdated website Line up an internship or job shadowing experience. Your young adults need to ask themselves what they can do to get their foot in the door of the working world. Summertime provides the perfect space for this to happen. Any time that students can get an internship or job shadowing opportunity even if its a volunteer position at a hospital this will set them apart from someone else who did nothing. It gives them proven experience within a company or organization says Lundien who points out that this is equally true for both high schoolers and college students. I always ask kids What are you going to do to set yourself apart from someone else Academically you might be on an even playing field with other students but what did you do differently Straight from the parenting trenches Becky Martin of Carrollton says her 19-year-old college student finds the balance by holding a job taking online classes and doing some travel. The job can be anything from babysitting retail restaurant or whatever. She took online classes last summer and will again this summer. While curfew for her is different than it was in high school the reality is her father and I work so she has to be quiet and respect the time we have to get up. goodBALANCE Any time that students can get an internship or job shadowing opportunity even if its a volunteer position at a hospital this will set them apart from someone else. - Rob Lundien spokesperson for the American School Counselor Association 58 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 FAMILY TIME Regardless of whos home or the ages of your kids you still need to build in time for some family fun. What can you do to forge those family connections make memories and enjoy the slower pace of summer together Get outside. Summer ushers in the perfect opportunity to build more outdoor activity into your lives. During the week create a new tradition of after-dinner family walks bike rides or late-night swims. On the weekend head to the ocean lake or river for the day to swim canoe fish or go boating or jet-skiing. Take on a fitness challenge together. Go for a family hike in a state park. Sign up for a local charity walk. Join a cycling club in your community. Train for your first 5K race together. Find ways to get fit in a fun way as a family keeping in mind various ages and fitness levels. Visit www.GoodLifeFamilyMag.com for a calendar of events. Vacation together. Trying to get everyones schedule to mesh is often a challenge but if you can go on an adventure together whether its a day trip a long weekend road trip or a week- long vacation. Travelling exposes kids to different cultures and lifestyles and provides an incredibly rich learning opportunity in a fun way. Plus experiencing it together creates those wonderful family memories that will connect your family for years to come. AND FINALLY... Keep in mind that many of these suggestions overlap for different age groups especially the high school and college-age kids. But implementing even a few of these ideas will keep your kids engaged this summer giving them the balance they need and the peace of mind you need. goodBALANCE See page 64 for some cheaper summer getaway tips or contact travel expert Wendy Sandridge at travelmomwendy.com for some great ideas. Go for a family hike in a state park. Sign up for a local charity walk. Join a cycling club in your community or train for your first 5K race together. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 59 goodREADS Suggested Summer Reading By Melissa Chaiken Books Editor TWEENS Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys The Sword of Summer by Rick Riordan Pax by Sara Pennypacker Jacky Ha-Ha by James Patterson Booked by Kwame Alexander Theodore Boone The Scandal by John Grisham Anna and the Swallow Man by Gavriel Savit TEENS The Serpent King by Jeff Zentner Seven Ways We Lie by Riley Redgate Wink Poppy Midnight by April Genevieve Highly Illogical Behavior by John Corey Whaley Complicit by Stephanie Kuehn The Outliers by Kimberly McCreight The Fever Code Maze Runner Series 5 by James Dashner ADULTS The Nest by Cynthia DAprix Fool Me Once by Harlan Coben Most Wanted by Lisa Scottoline Eligible A Modern Retelling of Pride and Prejudice by Curtis Sittenfeld The Summer Before the War by Helen Simonson First Comes Love by Emily Giffin release date June 28 Truly Madly Guilty by Liane Moriarty release date July 26 BOOKS COMING TO THE BIG SCREEN IN 2016 MeBeforeYou by JoJo Moyes release date June 3 TheBFG by Roald Dahl Starring Bill Hader and directed by Steven Spielberg release date July 1 The Light Between the Oceans by M.L. Stedman Starring Michael Fassbender and AliciaVikander release date September 2 TheGirlontheTrain by Paula Hawkins Starring Emily Blunt release date October 7 AMonsterCalls by Patrick Ness Starring Liam Neeson release date October 14 Fantastic Beasts andWhere to FindThem by J.K. Rowling as Newt Scamander Starring Eddie Redmayne release date November 18 MissPeregrinesHomeforPeculiarChildren by Ransom Riggs Directed byTim Burton release date December 25 60 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 Busy families looking to experience new adventures together dont have to go far. The same train or bus that gets you to school or work also can take you to fun. North Texas is bursting with cultural experiences dining and entertainment all walkable from a DART rail station or bus stop. The WaterTower Theatre an easy stroll from the Addison Transit Center offers a diverse mix of inspirational performances in a state-of-the-art facility. Close to Downtown Garland Station the Plaza Theatre is an elegant 350-seat venue that has shown inexpensive family-friendly films since 1941. And the Pocket Sandwich Theatre in Dallas near Mockingbird Station is a cool spot to watch live locally- produced theatrical performances. DART is also your ride to a diverse arrayofpalate-temptingfood.Italian Caf is a short walk from the Las Colinas Urban Center Station. This family-friendly restaurant famous for its homemade sandwiches pasta and seafood recipes is located near picturesque Lake Carolyn. In Oak Cliff Emporium Pies serves fresh and delicious hand-crafted desserts out of a quaint 1930s Victorian bungalow. Take DART Bus Route 722 or 021 to Bishop at Davis. If you are in search of physical activity check out Summit indoor rock climbing gym near Downtown Carrollton Station. The facility has programs for all ages and ability levels. You could take a river kayaking trip or guided hike at the Trinity River Audubon Center in Dallas. Take the Green Line to Buckner Station then Bus Route 466 to Great Trinity at Longacre. For something more laid-back head to Klyde Warren Park in downtown Dallas. It is an outdoor oasis which offers an assortment of food trucks lining the east side of thisurbangreeneryaswellasawealthoffreeprogramming from jazz on the green to storytelling time. A short trolley ride away from the park is The Rustic a cool spot to hangout on the lawn while enjoying Texas-style food and music. There are of course lots of other opportunities in North Texas to connect with nature. You could stroll through the 27-acre Farmers Branch Historical Park located along the Green Line at Farmers Branch Station. From the Downtown Plano Station tour the Interurban Railway Museum and enjoy a picnic at Haggard Park. Visit DART.orgDARTable to learn more about these and other life-enriching destinations. To find special events happening across North Texas visit DART.orgspecialevents. DART Makes Family Time More Fun by Bobbie Ames Entertainment Editor goodTO GO WaterTowerTheatre in Addison Emporium Pies in Bishop Arts Summit Gym in Carrollton The Rustic in Uptown North Texas is bursting with cultural experiences dining and entertainment all walkable from a DART rail station or bus stop. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 61 If selecting a place to eat with your teens feels like a food fight I feel your pain. Finding spots offering food options and fun factor that will please both parents and teens is no easy task. So I set out on a culinary quest to find spots in and around Dallas that just might fit the bill. Klyde Warren Park the 5.2-acre urban green space in downtown Dallas tops my list because it offers both food and fun. FOOD Talkaboutfindingaplacewherethereissomethingforeveryoneeverydayfrom11a.m.to3p.m.andsometimes into the evening you can find a plethora of food trucks featuring a variety of cultural cuisines. Hereareafewfavorites RUTHIES ROLLING CAF Warning These gourmet grilled cheese sandwiches might be addictive. Try the Ham I ham and swiss on sourdough 7.50 the Italian Hippy a joy-filled combination of chicken mozzarella tomatoes and pesto on whole grain wheat 8.75 or the S.A.S.S. a tempting concoctionofspinachartichokedipHavarticheesebaconand tomatoes on sourdough 8.50. Oh did I mention you can order yours gluten free And to top off every sandwich owner Ashlee Kleinert makes sure a percentage of each purchase goes to a worthy charitable organization. Ruthiesfoodtrucks.com COUSINS MAINE LOBSTER IamfromMaine. Ihavetorecommendthisspotnotjustbecausetheyhaveadarngoodlobsterrollbutbecausethe two young men who started this bourgeoning business are really cousins and they are from Maine. Opt for LobsterTacos an order of three served with cabbage pico and cilantro lime sauce 13 Maine LobsterTail 4 to 5 ozs 12.50 or a cup of Lobster Bisque 7.Top it off with aWhoopie Pie.Yum. Cousinsmainelobster.com YUMMY PIZZA NewYorkstylepizza8-inchpiesbeginningat7.50andwings0.85each. Murphyage15toldmethetomatoes on her margherita pizza were fresh and the pizza was well yummy. Enough said. yummypizzatruck.com More trucks Gandolfos NewYork Delicatessen Nammi Vietnamese food Coolhaus Unique ice cream and ice cream sandwiches Mad Grill Clean mean Asian cuisine Butchers Son Sandwiches quesadillas and sliders Crazy Fish Sushi rolls Greek Lover Greek food ENTERTAINMENT Free entertainment abounds.This brilliantly designed city park provides space to throw a frisbee relax and listen to live music a dog park a putting green ping pong croquet I kid you not a reading and game room ask about the chesstournamentsandanarrayoffitnesseventsincludingyogaandTaiChi. Orjustsitbackwithyourfabulousfare and enjoy the priceless people and dog watching. TASTEFULTIPS - Prepare to spend about 15 per person.Cashisking. -There are cafe tables and chairs scattered around the parkthese fill up quick. -Take a blanket and find a nice shady spot TalkfoodandfuntomeatBobbieGoodLifeFamilyMAG.com. Klyde Warren ParkSOMETHING EVERYONE CAN AGREE ON by Bobbie Ames Food and Entertainment Editor Cousins Maine Lobster Emporium Pies in Bishop Arts ChessTournament Live Music BikramYoga klydewarrenpark.org 214.716.4500 6AM to 11PM daily Friday Saturday 1100AM to 1200AM Sunday 1000AM - 1000PM Gandolfos FoodTruck 62 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 Best BarsIN GREATER DALLAS goodEATS Belly Up to Our ReadersPicks for The Best Places to Liquid-ate Greater Dallas has no shortage of places to grab a fresh juice relax with a glass of wine or hang out with friends to watch sports. Whether your preference is grab-and-go or sit-and-stay awhile great ambience is always an added bonus. We went to our readers to help us pick the very best Ifyourelookingforfreshjuicesaquickandnutritioussnackoratoxin-riddingcleansethesejuicebarswillmakeyoufeel bothhappyandhealthyandtheydontinvolvethemessyhomejuicer. 1 NKTER With delicious cold-pressed offerings likeToxin Flush and Green Apple Detox its hard to believe something sodeliciousissogoodforyou. Doyouneedgluten-freedairy-freeorveganoptionsNkterhasyoucovered.Add-in options include vitamin-packed ingredients like kale fennel pitaya chia seeds and hemp protein. If youre craving solid food their signature aai bowls with house made vanilla cashew milk granola and fruit are divine.They also offer cold brew coffee and 1- 5 day juice cleanses. nekterjuicebar.comLocationsinPlanoSniderPlazaSouthlake 2 JAMBA JUICE Theres a reason why Jamba Juice is so popular everything tastes amazing. From made-to-order fruit or veggie juices wheatgrass shot anyone to creamy or dairy-free smoothies everyone in the family will find somethingtolove. Somelocationsarenowalsoofferingartisanflatbreadsandtoastedbistrosandwichesinaddition to their usual delicious light bites breakfast wraps and kids menu its a one-stop shop for breakfast lunch and snacks. jambajuice.comMultiplelocationsthroughouttheDallasNorthDallasarea 3 THE GEM The Gem uses 100 organic and vegan ingredients and their commitment to delicious quality nutrition really shows. Cleanses may be ordered online and with the availability of turmeric wellness shots kombucha on tap and growler-sized containers of anything they serve your immune system is going to be very happy indeed. Tasty food offerings include a daily soup kale or quinoa salad and hummus with veggie chips. insidethegem.comLocationsinDallasPrestonCenterandPrestonForestLane 4 FAT STRAWS BUBBLE TEA FatStrawsBubbleTeaisourTeenChoicelocation.Ourteenreadersloveit Theyhavelocations in Plano ParkMidway and Addison AlphaNoel. fatstraws.net For a glass of your favorite vino or maybe a flight of selections you havent tried before these wine bars offer a relaxing settingyummynoshesandagreatplacetomeetupwithfriendsorfamily.Theseplacesareperfectfordatenighttoo 1 CR FOOD WINE BAR While Cr is known for its friendly knowledgeable staff as well as delicious appetizers cheese plates and stonefiredpizzasitalsooffersaniceselectionofbigplateitemsincludingfiletmignonherbcrustedbranzinoand Barolobraisedshortribs.JointheirfreeWineClubandyoullgetallsortsofjuicydiscountsincludingafreeentreon your birthday.cruawinebar.comLocationsinAllenWattersCreekPlanoShopsatLegacyandDallasWestVillage 2 MERCY WINE BAR Offering over 50 wines from 10 countries by the bottle and 100 wines by the carafe the Mercy experience feelslikeacozyextensionofyourlivingroomifyourslookslikeachicboutiquehotel. Theirmenuincludesshareable appetizersanddessertsaswellasfreshfishgrilledmeatsandsucculentpastas. AneveningatMercyWineBarmight just be your new way to unwind. mercywinebar.comLocatedinAddisonVillageontheParkway Juice Bars Wine Bars Nkter CrWine Bar Fat Straws BubbleTea TEEN CHOICE GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 63 goodEATS 3 VERITAS WINE ROOM TIE Veritas is a true wine lovers dream offering a rotating menu of 30 wines by the glass and a plethora of both familiar and obscure wines by the bottle. A range of prices make Veritas a good choice for any budget. The warm woodsy atmosphere makes you want to pull up a leather ottoman and leave your cares behind.. If youre hungryenjoyagourmetcheeseandmeatboardstockedwithlocalandimporteddelicaciesorenjoychocolatefrom Wiseman House Chocolates in HicoTexas. Beer aficionados will find a great selection of craft beers too. veritaswinedallas.com LocatedinDallasKnoxHenderson 3 THE ART OF WINE TIE Specializing ininteresting varietals from small production wineriesThe Art of Wine also offers familiar labels in a retail-meets-wine-bar setting. Its a great spot for after work and also special events including wine and painting get-togethers bachelorbachelorette parties birthdays and more. Join the Wine Club for just 39.99 month and receive two bottles of wine plus access to private tastings. theartofwinedallas.com Located in Dallas PrestonForestLane 4 WHOLE FOODS WINE BAR CITYLINE With a plethora of wines by the glass 16 kegs on tap periodic music provided by local musicians and even the Richardson Symphony Orchestra wine dinners game nights andtaptakeoverswhatsnottoloveaboutthiswinebarBonustheresdinnertakeouttoo. 1 PLUCKERS Sometimesyouvejustgottahaveagoodwing.Andsomewafflefries.Andbyallmeansdontforgetthe fried pickles. Multiple TV screens and a family-friendly vibe make Pluckers wildly popular just about any time of the day.Voted anESPNTop 5 Sports Barand aTop 10Wing BarUSAToday youll find traditional Buffalo-style wings alongside flavors like Spicy Korean and Garlic Parmesan.Wash it all down with your favorite brew. pluckers.netMultiplelocationsthroughouttheDallasNorthDallasarea 2 THE LION CROWN PUB The Lion Crown is an English style pub. Enjoy their wide selection of craft beers on tap fine wines or stayforlunchanddinner.WatchthegameononeofthemanylargeflatscreenTVs.Andthepatioissecondtonone for enjoying a nice night or you can enjoy the cozy atmosphere next to the fireplace.They feature different specials every day and live music every Friday and Saturday. lionandcrownpub.com Locations in Addison and Watters Creek inAllen. 3 AUSTIN AVENUE This is a classic sports bar nothing fancyjust plenty of good grub and suds and of course TV screens. What makes Austin Avenue a local favorite though is its festive neighborhoodvibe.MarchMadnessbracketcontestswithwingspecialsdarttournaments Halloweendress-upsandcorporatesocialhoursarereallywhatkeepregularscomingback for more. austinavenue.comLocationsinPlanoandRichardson 4 HENRYS TAVERN TIE Looking for an upscale sports bar thats also kid-friendly Henrys is your place. With a full-scale menu burgers tacos pizzas fresh fish you name it you can bring the whole family and enjoy a snack meal dinner or even Sunday brunch.Theres also live musicTuesday through Saturdays with no cover charge. henrystavern.com LocatedinPlanoShopsatLegacy 4 BRICK HOUSE TAVERN TAP TIE Described as asports bar with elevated pub fareBrick House offers a relaxed atmosphere with enough comfort food to completely blow your diet for the week.Think Chicken andWaffles Battered Fish and Chips Steak and Eggs and Drunken Chops.Their late night menu runs until 100 am on weeknights and 200 am on weekends. Dont miss their famous meatballs and their burgers are decadent. brickhousetavernandtap.com Located in Plano andGrapevine VeritasWine Room Sports Bars Pluckers HenrysTavern BEST NEW SPOT The Lion and Crown Pub BEST COME BACK 64 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 BEST DATES FOR CHEAPER SUMMER GETAWAYS by Rick Seaney goodTO GO CHEAPER DATES TO FLY U.S. The following is true for most routes but there is always some variation which is why my mantra for airfare shoppers is always compare airfares. May 16 This is the last day to begin a trip and pay the cheaper spring fares. Starting May 17 higher pre-summer ticket prices kick-in so depart before then. June 9 This is the last day to take advantage of better fares before the peak summer season gets underway. Remember you only have to depart by this date you dont have to complete the trip. Aug. 1 Starting on this date youll see a slight drop for weekday airfare but not for weekend flights. Aug. 23 Delaying a getaway can really pay off Aug. 23 marks the start of most U.S. airlines cheaper fall season. Prices will typically drop across-the-board. CHEAPER DATES TO FLY EUROPE The best dates for Continental getaways mirror the best U.S. dates. May 16 This is the final day to take advantage of cheaper spring fares. Beginning May 17 prices will rise as Europes most expensive season begins. Aug. 23 Prices will dive and then watch for another drop in mid to late-October. CHEAPER DATES TO FLY - ASIA May 31 This is the last day for the cheaper fares of the pre-summer season. Aug. 1 Look for a small price drop on this date. Aug. 23 Look for a bigger price drop on this date. Sept. 12 There may be another small price drop but it will vary by airline. CHEAPER DAYS TO FLY U.S. AND INTERNATIONAL In general flying on weekdays is cheaper than flying on weekends but there are three specific days that are generally the cheapest for U.S. flights Tuesday Wednesday and Saturday. This might be a good time to wean yourself away from the idea of a getaway being a strictly Friday to Sunday affair. Try taking off on a Tuesday and returning on Saturday or travel just one cheaper day and youll still reap half the savings. Find more of Rick Seaneys Magic Dates to Fly in 2016 at farecompare.comtravel-advicemagic- dates-cheapest-days-to-fly-in-2016. Rick Seaney is a travel expert and CEO of FareCompare Farecompare.com Summers the time for a getaway with or without the kids. Now lets make it cheap or at least cheaper here are some days and dates to keep in mind. Bottom line - The best deals are available when most people dont want to travel. Bonus There are fewer crowds at the airport. First lets look at some cheaper dates to consider and then some specific cheaper days. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 65 This might be a good time to wean yourself away from the idea of a getaway being a strictly Friday to Sunday affair. goodTO GO -Rick Seaney FareCompare Giving the Keys SANDWICH GENERATION PARENTS FACE THE WORRY AT BOTH ENDS by AliciaWanek Driving is independence. The freedom to jump in the car and go where you want when you want is a privilege that is integral to the lifestyles we lead. When a teen gets a drivers license his or her world expands exponentially but what about when they have to stop driving In contrast to a teen drivers expanding world giving up driving for a senior can make their world seem much smaller. Sandwichgenerationparentsareoftencaughtinbetweenthetwoextremes both giving the keys to their teens and taking the keys away from aging parents can be a tricky place to be. Local mom Tammy Komenda has new teen drivers and she recently had to convince her father to stop driving altogether. She says As part of the sandwich generation you go from taking your kids to all academic and sports events to taking your parents shopping and to doctors appointments. Whether youre the parent of a new driver or the child of an aging parent its important to look at the situation from their point of view. Mary Sanger licensed marriage and family therapist at Insights Collaborative Therapy Group explains what driving means for a teen. For most teens getting a drivers license is a milestone. It provides them with an opportunity to differentiate from parents in a more profound way. Differentiation from family is a necessary and important part of being a young person. It has to do with our ability to manage the natural desire we all have to both be autonomousandalsoattachedinrelationships.Beingabletodrivegainsteens more independence freedom and opportunity for making independent choices - all important components of autonomy. For elderly adults its all that in reverse. To a senior giving up driving is taking away that autonomy and making that transition can be a very sensitive subject. David Stanley of Custom Caregivers says When we talk about taking away something we automatically create conflict. After all theyve likely been driving almost their whole life. Stanley suggests We spend too much time talking and taking rather than listening and giving. Try to put the decision-making back in their court. Ask your parent how best to accommodate them during the transition and keep them safe at the same time. Taking away causes humiliation. Creating understanding and accommodation is empowering Stanley reminds us. How can we help a senior understand that giving up their drivers license isnt the end of the world Sanger says I think whats important is for older parents to still know they have many ways to have a sense of autonomy. Driving is only one aspect of that. Encourage them to keep other responsibilities such as coming up with the holiday menus or educating your tween on what a budget is. Remind them of other ways for them to have independence and freedom of choice. Resources like Custom Caregivers can be invaluable for a senior. Stanley says We provide transportation services that help seniors regain some of the independence they feel that they have lost. We take people grocery continued on page 75 Taking the Keys CONSIDER THESE FIVE WARNING SIGNS of an unsafe elderly driver to determine if its time to have a serious conversation with your mom or dad. If it is AARP has a wonderful on-line resource calledIts Time to Talk. 1. AUTO INSURANCE CHANGES OR TRAFFIC TICKETS Find out if their auto insurance rates have increased recently or if they have received traffic tickets or warnings. 2. DAMAGE TO THE CAR Check to see if the car has new dents or nicks. 3. RELUCTANCE TO DRIVE AT NIGHT Pay attention if they are reluctant to drive at night seem tense or exhausted after driving or complain of getting lost. 4. FRIENDS OBSERVATIONS Discreetly check in with friends and neighbors and ask if theyve noticed any driving problems. 5. DRIVING BEHAVIOR CHANGES When you accompany your family member on an errand or an outing encourage them to take the wheel and look for these signs of driving problems Do they fasten their seat belt Do they sit comfortably at the wheel or do they crane forward or show signs of discomfort Do they seem tense preoccupied or easily distracted Are they aware of traffic lights road signs pedestrians and the reactions of other motorists Do they often tailgate or drift into other lanes Dotheyreactslowlyorwithconfusioninunexpectedsituations We spend too much timetalking and taking rather thanlistening and giving. Try to put the decision-making back in their court. Taking away causes humiliation. 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Program Coordinator Yvette Cardenas a 17-year teaching veteran says Scots Caf is allowing students to acquire invaluable teamwork and leadership skills that will carry them through life. What better way to start than in the kitchen Everyone is familiar with all the skills one can learn when cooking measuring out recipes and socializing. The young chefs don wide grins as they prepare and serve up freshly baked potatoes along with smoked pulled pork and other fixings to the schools faculty. And they havent stopped there. Scots Caf has become so popular that it has now extended beyond just the high school lunch scene to weekend catering jobs including the North Texas Irish Festival Taste of Dallas festival and local elementary schools. Scots Caf has given the students a newfound sense of self- worth and responsibility says Cardenas. Its a concept that has made the Transition Program that much more meaningful and purposeful. Not only do the students get excited when they have another catering job but the parents and Highland Park community also find joy in watching the students take ownership of Scots Caf. In addition to the fun factor Cardenas adds that the most important aspect of Scots Caf is that it has significantly strengthened the students self-confidence. Through catering the students have learned to shine and showcase their abilities rather than find themselves defined by their disabilities. Now hows that for a lunch-time treat by Madison Cook ScotsCafhasgiventhestudentsanewfound sense of self-worth and responsibility. - Yvette Cardenas Highland Park High School Transition Program Coordinator Embrace is generously sponsored in part by Ilana and Semyon Narosov E M B R A C E mbrs verb 1. Hold someone closely in ones arms especially as a sign of affection. Synonyms hug hold cuddle envelop 2. Accept or support a belief theory or change willingly and enthusiastically. Synonyms welcome welcome with open arms accept take to ones heart support champion 3. Include or contain something as a constituent part. Synomyms include take in encompass involve embody comprehend e Our newest section Embrace was created to provide information and human interest articles to help families with differently-abled children. Whether your child has ADHD Autism Down Syndrome or any other special need that qualifies him or her for programs in public schools we will be researching and covering important educational and inspiring content that addresses a wide variety of issues. 70 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 EMBRACE A True Shooting Star BRADLEY ROSSEL SHINES AS A COMMUNITY LEADER By AliciaWanek Ashooting star is described as a meteor that glows as it moves through the atmosphere. In Bradley Rossels acceptance speech for the Chesed Award from Chabad of Plano he likened what he calls the shooting stars in basketball to the other men he was honored with that evening Dr. Cary Israel and Supreme Court Justice Richard Bernstein. However the fact that he was being recognized for the shining example he sets as he goes through life making an impact on everyone he meets makes him the embodiment of a shooting star. The galaxy of stars surrounding his own bright light are the members of his amazing family. Bradley was born the first in a set of triplets. His sister Ilana came second and his brother Jeremy third. Forty-one years ago that was an especially unusual event. It became apparent pretty early however that Bradley would have some special challenges but they havent slowed him down thanks in large part to the support of Ilana and Jeremy. His mom Beverly says Their support has brought him to where he is today. Growing up he was treated just the same as his siblings and they were very protective of Bradley. Beverly says He was mainstreamed in our family. Jeremys and Ilanas friends engulfed him too. Beverly says If you werent friends with Bradley you werent part of the group. To this day the triplets are extremely close. When Bradley was recognized at the Chabad of Plano Gathering of Inspiration event on April 17th for his tireless efforts as a volunteer with Jewish Family Services over 40 family members came to show their support for Uncle Moo. Family from as far away as Maryland and Illinois flew in for his big night and everyone agreed that hed earned all of the accolades. His Brother Jeremy says Im very proud of him...I enjoy when he is recognized for his own efforts. His sister Ilana says I wish the world for my brother and couldnt think of anyone who deserves the recognition more. It just validates all hes done. The award is given annually to someone who lives out the qualities of chesed. Chesed is a Hebrew word that is often translated as loving-kindness. According to Jewish Family Services executive director Michael Fleisher Bradley is the personification of a volunteer for their organization and shows love and kindness every day he is there. Bradleys responsibilities include stocking the food pantry assisting with special events such as diaper drives helping in the resale shop and calling to remind people of their appointments. Michael says its not just his dependability and strong work ethic that they appreciate but its also his can do will do attitude always The Rossel Family. Pictured l-r Jeremy Ilana Bradley Beverly and Cary. In everything you do you inspire all of us to scale the walls of our limitations and access the true freedom that is achieved by being the best person that we all can be. - Rabbi Menachem Block Chabad of Plano on why Bradley was chosen for the Chesed community spirit award GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 71 EMBRACE with a smile that makes him even more appreciated. In his remarks after Bradleys award was bestowed his dad Cary said His love of life is infectious and his smile is contagious. In presenting the award Rabbi Menachem Block related the message of Passover. You could have easily slipped into the role of recipient taking the help and support from your loving family and friends said Rabbi Block Instead you escaped your limitationsandbecameatruegiverofkindness. Ineverything you do you inspire all of us to scale the walls of our limitations and access the true freedom that is achieved by being the best person that we all can be. For Bradley though its all about selfless giving. He says I like to help out. I like to help everybody. He is quick to point out that JFS supports people in need from all denominations. He also has participated in Special Olympics mostly basketball since the age of twelve and has since gone on to go through all the training to be a coach and mentor. Each year he and Jeremy go to Houston to participate in the Texas Special Olympics. That selfless spirit became evident again when as he ended his speech he said Before I leave tonight I want to tell you to please give your time and become a volunteer like me or donate food or money or anything you want to Jewish Family Service. Ultimately he will never stop passing his light on to others. Bradley volunteers and works in the food pantry at Jewish Family Service. The RosselTriplets Bradley Ilana and Jeremy Giving his speech after receiving the Chesed Award Bradley plays volleyball for the Special Olympics I like to help out. I like to help everybody. - Bradley Rossel 72 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 Good Eats Our editors scoured the greater Dallas area for family-friendly dining destinations. Here are some of our favorites. CASUAL FAMILY DINING Finding a family-friendly restaurant thats afford- able accessible and delicious can be challenging but we know where to look The next time your teens ask Whats for dinner you know in that voice pay a visit to one of these tried-and-true eateries SPEZZO PLANO A chic Italian joint to grab a quick bite or lingeryour call. Pizzas are fresh and fast and hearty traditional sandwiches like Chicken Parm orThe Gina Parm with assorted Italian cold cuts and fresh mozzarella are served on yummy semolina rolls from Empire Bakery.Wine beer cocktails espresso and gelato also available. 4901W. Park Blvd. Ste 521 PlanoTX 75093 972 596-8942 spezzoitalian.com SISSYS SOUTHERN KITCHEN BAR DALLAS Really everything weve tried at Sissys is good. Really really good. And the owner Lisa Garza Selcer couldnt be more hos- pitable. But for family dining the way to go at Sissys is with a bucketofherfamousfriedchicken.Youllgettenpiecesforjust 25 and it comes with your choice of coleslaw or whipped po- tatoes and gravy.Throw in some of her famous squash puppies withTexas honey butter and jalapeo jelly and voil Dinner is served. 2929 N Henderson Ave. DallasTX 75206 214 827-9900 sissyssouthernkitchen.com CHICKEN SCRATCH DALLAS IfyourelookingforslowfastfoodandacoolAustinvibeChick- en Scratch CS is the place to be. The Fork and Knife Chicken Finger Biscuit Sandwich is like Chick-fil-A on steroids only in this version the chicken is hormone-free never frozen and lo- calandthebiscuitismadefromscratch.NotfeelingfriedNo problem. CS offers big salad bowls and pecan wood rotisserie plates too. 2303 Pittman St. DallasTX 75208 214 749-1112 cs-tf.com GRIMALDIS ALLEN There was a time when you could only get Grimaldis famous coal-fired brick oven pizza in New York. But that was then. While the menu is somewhat basic pizzas calzones salads its also consistent. But what we like about the Allen location is that it overlooks the little park at Watters Creek where live music is often played during warmer months. 836 Market St. AllenTX 75013 214 383-9703 grimaldispizzeria.com DELI NEWS DALLAS Sometimes youve just gotta have a sandwich a really big juicy one on pillowy bread piled high with deli meats cheese and condi- ments. And Deli News a true New York-style deli restaurant and bakery has served the best for the past twenty-two years. Theyvegoteverythingtheex-NewYorkerislookingforwhite- fish chopped liver pastrami and more. Dine in or take out they also cater. 17062 Preston Rd. at Campbell Rd. DallasTX 75248 972 733-3354 delinewsdallas.com TUKTA THAI RICHARDSON Delicious food a veggie-friendly menu dont worry theres meat too brisk service and a putting green Yes a putting green apparently the owners daughter is quite the golfer so there you have it. Quirkiness asideTuktaThais PadThai is one ofRichardsonsbestandtheCurryFriedRiceandPadWoonSen are equally good. And its BYOB. 9625 Plano Rd. Ste 500 DallasTX 75238 214 342-0121 tuktathairestaurant.com HOPDODDY DALLAS PARK CITIES ADDISON Hopdoddy believes happy burgers start with happy cows humanely raised and without any added chemicals or hor- mones. In fact just about everything at Hopdoddy ishappy local and organic vegetables handcut fries made from scratch buns including gluten-free options and craft beers. hopdoddy.com DALLAS Preston Center 6030 Luther Ln. Ste 100 214 363- 2337 3227 McKinney Ave. Ste 102 214 871-2337 ADDISON 5100 Belt Line Rd. Ste 502 972 387-2337 COFFEE HOUSE CAF DALLAS This little jewel box offers deliciousbreakfastlunchand dinner at reasonable prices in a delightful setting. Its the perfect place for date night or just about anything else. Their coffee is European style handcrafted mostly organic and all that. If you feel like a date night at home they even offer a drive-through. Its all good. But really you had us at drive-through. 6150 Frankford Rd. DallasTX 75252 469 248-0554 coffeehousecafe.com TORCHYS TACOS What better anti-turkey meal than one including the best queso and chips in townThis Austin-based eatery offers what most would callgourmettacos in a fun casual non-gourmet setting. Their taco of the month is always delicious and might include ingredients like pumpkin seed crusted chicken tenders or escabeche carrots. They also offer hearty breakfast tacos perfect for out of town guests. Locations throughout the DFW area torchystacos.com DATE NIGHT OR FANCIER FAMILY DINING When its time to make a break for it or take the family somewhere more special here are some places that are both sophisticated and offer a spe- cial ambience. SMOKE PLANO DALLAS Whats not to love about Smoke At the Plano locale the food is delicious the service is spot-on the dcor is warm and cozy and the beautiful covered patios are romantic and also a great placeforpeoplewatching.The Dallas location is smaller and charming with a retro feel its adjacent to the Belmont Hotel offering many of the same menu items as the Plano outpost and all of the same excellentTexas-sized hospitality. smokerestaurant.com PLANO 2408 Preston Rd. 972 599-2222 DALLAS 901 FortWorth Ave. 214 393-4141 KENNYS WOOD FIRED GRILL ADDISON Everyone loves Kennys restaurants including the Burger Joint Italian Kitch- en and Smoke House. What makes the Wood Fired Grill location perfect for date night though is its classy supper club dcor and simply put the food. Steaks chops burgers and fish are all perfectly prepared. Every meal starts with Kennys famous popovers and in our humble opinion should include their half-pound jumbo lump crab cake. Try a Grey Goose martini their vodka is kept on tap at 28 degrees. Smooooth. 5000 Belt Line Rd. Ste 775 DallasTX 75254 972 392-9663 kennyswoodfiredgrill.com CR FOOD AND WINE BAR PLANO ALLEN DALLAS All three of the Cr locations offer tasty little bites to share tapas style stone fired pizza big plates steaks chicken and fish and a very nice selection of cheese. Bartenders are knowledgeable about the extensive wine selection. We enjoy ordering a flight of three two-ounce wines related by grape varietal geographic region or style. Flights are a nice way to trysomethingnewwithoutbreakingthedatenightbank.Plus they encourage lingering. cruawinebar.com SHOPS AT LEGACY 7201 Bishop Rd. Ste E2 972 312-9463 WATTERS CREEK 842 Market St. 972 908-2532 DALLAS goodEATS 3699 McKinney Ave. Ste 107 214 526-9463 cruawinebar.com JAVIERS DALLAS A Knox-Henderson institution Javiers is still the go-to place for a guaranteed good time with its bustling crowd of beautiful people and a swanky just ignore the smoke cigar bar. NoTex- Mex here. This is authentic Mexico City dining. Dont miss the Filete Cantinflas tenderloin beef filet stuffed with Chihuahua cheeseandtoppedwithmildchilemulattosauceortheBarrade Navidad giant shrimp in a delightful diablo sauce. Ol 4912 Cole Ave. DallasTX 75205 214 521-4211 javiers.net THE THEODORE NORTHPARK CENTER The latest crown jewel from award-winning Chef Tim Byres and Turn the Tables Hospitality Smoke Bolsa The Foundry Chicken Scratch and more is The Theodore. Inspired by Teddy Roosevelts adventurous spirit its the perfect spot to enjoy cocktails andappetizersbeforeamovieorlingerforasumptuousdinner. The menu contains the sort of rusticsophisticated and share- able twists weve come to expect and love from Chef Byres. In good weather enjoy the patio. NorthPark Center near Nordstrom 8687 North Central Expressway Dallas 75225 469.232.9771 thetheodore.com AMBERJAX DALLASTRINITY GROVE ThislightandspaciousLouisiana-styleeateryhasplentytooffer. Not only is it smack-dab in the middle of one of Dallashottest dining destinations for date night and more the freshly pre- pared seafood is tough to beat.Whether youve got a hankering forDownHomeShrimpandGritsLobsterMacCheeseormay- be something lighter like Seared Yellowfin Tuna with Wasabi Ponzu and Ginger Amberjax will not disappoint. 3011 Gulden Ln. Ste 107 DallasTX 75212 469 513-9088 amberjax.net SAINT ANN RESTAURANT AND BAR DALLAS Although the inside space is gorgeous its the patio over- looking the Arts District thats the real draw at Saint Ann the perfect spot for a cocktail or weekend brunch.The food is fairly straightforward salads sandwiches steaks and fish. We like ordering a few appe- tizers the bacon wrapped Medjool dates and spinach artichoke dip are nice and kicking back while taking in the hipster crowd. 2501 N. Harwood St. DallasTX 75201 214 782-9807 saintanndallas.com CAF MALAGA MCKINNEY Another great pick for tapas and maybe a lovely glass of ros. Just off the beautiful downtown historic square Caf Malagas secluded back patio is a bit of a hidden gem but well worth a visit.TapasstandoutsincludetheLambLollipopChopsandgoo- ey Fondue with five different types of cheese. 107 S Church St. McKinneyTX 75069 972 542-9996 cafemalaga.com TERILLIS EAST DALLAS The food at Terillis is standard Italian fare but pretty solid. TheyrefamousfortwothingsItalchosanItaliannachotopped with marinara cheese and an assortment of other toppings of your choice killer and a rooftop patio with one of the pretti- est views of Dallas you can imagine. Plus most nights they play live music. 2815 Greenville Ave. DallasTX 75206 214 827-3993 terillis.com THE RUSTIC UPTOWN The gigantic patio is always packed Enjoy down-home food made from scratch daily. The menu features seafood from the Gulf steak sourced from local ranchers and dairy and produce grown by local farmers. The bartenders stay busy pouring the most prolific collection of local beverages in town including 40 beers on tap. 3656 Howell St. DallasTX 75204 214730-0596 therustic.com FIFTH STREET PATIO CAF FRISCO This is a terrific place for patio diningand theyre open for breakfast lunch and dinner. We adore the Bananas Foster French Toast the Kentucky Hot Brown and the Frisco Cheese- steak noticewe like decadent food. Waits can be long especially on weekends but the food and the vibrant scene are definitely worth it. 8621 5th St. FriscoTX 75034 972 377-3483 5thstreetcafe.com RICKS CHOPHOUSE MCKINNEY Located in the beautiful Grand Hotel Ballroom in downtown McKinney Ricks is absolutely a date destination for lunch cock- tails and dinner. Comfy leather couches live music from local artistsThursday through Saturday and handcrafted cocktails are just part of what makes Ricks so popular. 107 North Kentucky McKinney 75069 214.726.9251 www.rickschophouse.com Have the time of your life as you learn to cook with your friends at your very own cooking party. Capers brings the food the drinks the party atmosphere and the culinary expertise to the table - you bring your friends. Looking for a fun-filled gourmet adventure Schedule your customizable Caper right away at www.cooksandcapers.com or by calling 214.912.0475. 5000 Beltline Rd. 775 DallasTX 75254 972 392-9663 www.kennyswoodfiredgrill.com W O O D G R I L L E D B U R G E R S K E N N Y S Located inTh 5760 Legacy PlanoTX 750 972 473-74 www.kennys 5100 Beltline Road Suite 764 DallasTexas 75254 972 661-9380 www.kennysitalian.com 1377 Legacy Drive Suite 120 FriscoTexas 75034 214 618-8001 5809 Preston Rd Suite 588 PlanoTexas 75093 972 378-0999 www.kennysburgerjoint.com EVERY DAY IS A HOLIDAY AND EVERY MEAL A FEAST Do you remember a time when there were restaurants without BS split charges 18 gratuity added or ridiculous statements like Im sorry thats our policy Welcome to Kennys Wood Fired Grill. A restaurant reminiscent of the way things used to be. A place where we make it our policy to have no policy Thank you very much for coming we really appreciate it If there is absolutely anything we can do to make your experience more enjoyable please let us know. Jeff Pierce is our Managing Partner and is here most of the time. Bob is usually at the office because Bobs the smart one Mike is in one of our dining rooms and Im in one of our kitchens. We would all love to meet you when we are here Have a wonderful time and remember at Kennys Restaurants . . . EVERY DAY IS A HOLIDAY AND EVERY MEAL A FEAST Kenny Bowers Bob Stegall Mike Hutchinson Jeff Pierce The lawyers made us do it Consuming raw or undercooked meats poultry seafood shellfish or eggs may be dangerous to your health especially if you have certain medical conditions duh. But so can driving on 635 at rush hour going for a walk playing golf and so on. Oh by the way well cook the food to your specs. Also please excuse any spelling punctuation or grammatical errors. W O O D G R I L L E D B U R G E R S K E N N Y S SMOKE HOUSE KENNYS www.kennysre 5000 Beltline Rd. 775 DallasTX 75254 972 392-9663 www.kennyswoodfiredgrill.com W O O D G R I L L E D B U R G E R S K E N N Y S Located inThe Shops of Legacy 5760 Legacy Drive 4 PlanoTX 75024 972 473-7478 www.kennyssmoke.com 5100 Beltline Road Suite 764 DallasTexas 75254 972 661-9380 www.kennysitalian.com 1377 Legacy Drive Suite 120 FriscoTexas 75034 214 618-8001 5809 Preston Rd Suite 588 PlanoTexas 75093 972 378-0999 www.kennysburgerjoint.com EVERY DAY IS A HOLIDAY AND EVERY MEAL A FEAST Do you remember a time when there were restaurants without BS split charges 18 gratuity added or ridiculous statements like Im sorry thats our policy Welcome to Kennys Wood Fired Grill. A restaurant reminiscent of the way things used to be. A place where we make it our policy to have no policy Thank you very much for coming we really appreciate it If there is absolutely anything we can do to make your experience more enjoyable please let us know. Jeff Pierce is our Managing Partner and is here most of the time. Bob is usually at the office because Bobs the smart one Mike is in one of our dining rooms and Im in one of our kitchens. We would all love to meet you when we are here Have a wonderful time and remember at Kennys Restaurants . . . EVERY DAY IS A HOLIDAY AND EVERY MEAL A FEAST Kenny Bowers Bob Stegall Mike Hutchinson Jeff Pierce The lawyers made us do it Consuming raw or undercooked meats poultry seafood shellfish or eggs may be dangerous to your health especially if you have certain medical conditions duh. But so can driving on 635 at rush hour going for a walk playing golf and so on. Oh by the way well cook the food to your specs. Also please excuse any spelling punctuation or grammatical errors. W O O D G R I L L E D B U R G E R S K E N N Y S SMOKE HOUSE KENNYS www.kennysrestaurantgroup.com L E D B U R G E R S N N Y S Located inThe Shops of Legacy 5760 Legacy Drive 4 PlanoTX 75024 972 473-7478 www.kennyssmoke.com 5100 Beltline Road Suite 764 DallasTexas 75254 972 661-9380 www.kennysitalian.com y Drive Suite 120 75034 001 n Rd Suite 588 75093 999 ysburgerjoint.com Y DAY IS A HOLIDAY ERY MEAL A FEAST www.kennysrestaurantgroup.com D B U R G E R S N Y S Located inThe Shops of Legacy 5760 Legacy Drive 4 PlanoTX 75024 972 473-7478 www.kennyssmoke.com 5100 Beltline Road Suite 764 DallasTexas 75254 972 661-9380 www.kennysitalian.com rive Suite 120 034 1 d Suite 588 093 9 urgerjoint.com DAY IS A HOLIDAY ERY MEAL A FEAST www.kennysrestaurantgroup.com Everydayisaholidayandeverymealisafeast www.kennysfood.com 74 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 Help your children find their own success in ways that are meaningful to them. Guide them towards achievement of authentic success which according to my colleague Ken Ginsburg MD national expert on raising resilient children and teens includes happiness an ability to make and maintain meaningful relationships generosity compassion a desire to contribute creativity and innovation and of course resilience. From Letting Go with Love and Confidence We help children achieve authentic success by discouraging the idea that kids need to be good at everything to succeed we help them understand that we all have areas where we shine and others in which we may struggle. We build on this ethic by celebrating kids academic accomplishments but also acknowledging that they are so much more than their report cards or test scores. We encourage them to understand the value of success when we allow them to fail this is how they learn their limits and decide what they want to improve upon. For when kids are afraid to fail they are often reluctant to try new things they may or may not be good at possibly leading to a very restricted range of experiences over their lifetime. We want them to enjoy all aspects of their lives even the ones they may not be the best at. Theres still a college out there where he or she will thriveI promise. continued from FindingtheRightKindofBalance Page 42 IN A WORLD FRAMED BY BAD GOOD BETTER AND BEST children who are just developing their competencies at communicating with others learning how to learn adjusting to their changing bodies and understanding themselves have become a very stressed generation. of homework they are handling. A California teacher interviewed in the movie believes schools are taking away the joy of learning in the process and that the culture of education today will further roboticize and mechanize academic competitors. Another teacher asks When did schools get to dictate what happens when kids go home And is the increased homework helping them academically Not necessarily especially when you consider that many countries that outperform the U.S. academically have much less homework than we do. As much as we want our children to succeed ultimately we all want to see them as happy and productive adults. Dr. Gluckman believes we have to focus on their spirit that part of them that comes from the inside and helps them to establish their identity. Knowing who I am and being proud of myself having self- confidence and high self-esteem begins with having a healthy spirit she says. And according to Dr. Beckloff No one knows better the pulse of their child than the parent. He points out that some kids are able to handle more than others too and we should model what we expect from our kids. After all were under a lot of stress too. Dr. Beckloff says to go with your parental instinct. As parents you know when somethings not quite right. He suggests you 1. Be aware of how your children are functioning in different situationsare they engaged at church socially in other situations outside of school 2. Do they have at least one friend Some kids thrive on a large social group others prefer one or two close friends. Either is okay. 3. Look at grades as an indicator. Some kids just give up because they feel they cant measure up no matter how hard they try. If grades start falling suddenly it could be an indicator of concern. 4.Havediscussionswithyourchildren about sleep healthy eating and use of technology and let them participate in the decision-making. You may feel like it goes in one ear and out the other but they do generally take in more information than they care to admit. continued from IsItARacetoNowhere Page 36 The movie asks What does it take to produce a happy motivated creative kind of kid The balance between all of the expectations placed on them is very delicate. They need to each find their own way so hopefully their race is to SOMEwhere just right for them. GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 75 shopping to the doctor to religious services out for a meal or even to social events. We can escort our clients anywhere that they need to go either in their own car or in the caregivers car. Being able to assure the senior that they can still get where they need to go can alleviate their fears. Getting where they need to go safely. Thats the biggest concern whether youre talking about a teen driver or an aging parent. Are the dangers on the road really that bad For teens they most definitely are. A recent article on teen driving in the New York Times quotes Dr. Nichole Morris a researcher at the University of Minnesota Among this age group ages 16 to 17 death in motor vehicle accidents outstrips suicide cancer and other types of accidents. Dr. Morris said Cars have gotten safer roads have gotten safer but teen drivers have not. Curtis Howard senior legal advisor to the Plano Police Department gives the sad reminder that In Plano our citizens are more likely to be injured or killed due toatrafficincidentthanbeinginvolvedinaviolentcrime. Attorney Rob Chaiken who is a specialist in complex civil litigation and serious personal injury claims says Teenage driving is the biggest threat and risk challenge out there for kids and families. Dr. John Saad Executive Medical Director of Emergency Services at Medical Center of Plano says Clearly teens and elderly populations are at a higher risk of injury from motor vehicle accidents. Dr. Saad has seen that those dangers too often lead to injuries and sadly deaths. Teens have the lowest rate of seatbelt use are more likely to speed allow less room between vehicles and are more likely to drive impaired. The elderly are more likely to wear seat belts limit driving in bad weather and are less likely to drive after consuming alcohol but they are also more susceptible to injuries. Its their decreased vision cognitive changes and decreased reaction time that can lead to accidents. For teens its behavioral for the elderly its physical says Dr. Saad. OK so we need to prepare our teen drivers for the road. How do we do that In Texas the graduated drivers license program implements a two-phase process before teens get a regular adult license. Parents have the option of teaching the drivers education material themselves or parents can look to a local driving school. Robert Chaiken reminds us that ultimately parents need to assess both the childs technical competency driving and also their maturity level and overall behavior to determine if they are ready to drive. Because in addition to what the law provides parents need to implement their own set of rules and enforce them - such as hours of operation geographic limitations no cell phone use music control passenger limitations drinking and drugs etc. If your child has demonstrated an inability or unwillingness to comply with your rules in other areas of day to day life then it might not be time to let the child drive. Sanger agrees. I think its important for parents to be talking with kids about the concept that with freedom comes responsibility. Help kids understand that we have a responsibility to keep not only them safe but other people on the street and in the community safe. She believes that if a parent has any concern about their teens ability to be safe on the road especially any concern about alcohol or drug use while driving they should lose the privilege of driving altogether. Period. Chaiken also reminds us that just because your teen has had a license for a while without any incidents does not mean that all is well. Its important to continue monitoring their driving habits. Its harder to prepare Mom or Dad to stop driving. Despite the difficulty you dont want to wait for something to go terribly wrong before the decision is made for them. Sometimes seemingly drastic measures may be necessary. When Marsha Holms family determined her mother should no longer be on the road they called her doctor for assistance. When her mother went in for an appointment the doctor called the DMV right there in front of her and told them her license should be suspended. That ended the discussion pretty quickly. Susan Perrys father moved to an assistive living center and they told him he wasnt allowed to take his car. She said that he asked about it for a while until she finally told him that they had sold it. By that time he understood that he was okay without it. Kristy Howards cousins could not get her aunt to give over the keys. One day her aunt was involved in a minor fender bender but it destroyed the front tire and rim. Her cousins told the aunt that the car was totaled. In reality they had it repaired and sold it. Not being straightforward with your parents may seem dishonest but it can allow them to save their dignity somewhat. Ultimately what we want is for our children and our parents to be safe. Making the right decisions about how to grant and take away the independence that comes with driving should not be taken lightly. Watching your kids grow and assume new responsibilities and having the privilege of taking care of the ones who have given so much to us are both reasons to celebrate. continued from GivingtheKeysTakingtheKeys Page 66 I think it is a good idea to have the kids take drivers Ed classes where a professional is involved in teaching and provides a more objective evaluation on the competency issue. - Robert Chaiken attorney Chaiken Chaiken THE SANDWICH GENERATION 76 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 Community Calendar goodTIMES MAY TWENTY-FIVEYEARSOFGIVING WHEN MondayMay2nddoorsopenat1000am WHERE OmniDallasHotel555S.Lamar WHAT The 2016 Salvation Army Womens Auxiliary Fashion Show and Luncheon entitled Twenty-FiveYears of Givingwill be chaired by well-known Dallas community leader Car- maleta Whiteley. The event features a runway presentation produced by the legendary Jan Strimple. Ron Corning of WFAA TV Channel 8 will serve as the emcee. The Womens AuxiliarysupportsthecommunityserviceprojectsofTheSalvationArmywhichseekstoen- richthelivesofthoselessfortunate. COST Individualticketsstartat250sponsorshipsareavailable. CONTACT Tina Trejo Office Manager The Salvation Army DFW Metroplex Command at 214.637.8121 23rdANNUALGENESISANNUALLUNCHEON WHEN FridayMay6that1130am WHERE HiltonAnatoleChantillyBallroom2201StemmonsFreewayDallas WHAT The 23rd Annual Luncheon will benefit the Genesis Womens Shelter Support. Genesis is committed to preventing violence by raising the level of community awareness regardingthepervasivenessandeffectsofdomesticviolence. For25yearsGenesishaspro- vided shelter safety counseling and expert services to battered women and their children. Tyler Perry will be the Keynote Speaker. Tyler is an actor director screenwriter producer playwright author and philanthropist. Born into poverty and raised in a household scarred by abuse he fought from a young age to find the strength faith and perseverance that would later form the foundations ofhiswork. COST175individualtickets CONTACTAmyNortonat214.389.7705or anortongenesisshelter.org 2016EMMITTSMITHCELEBRITYINVITATIONAL WHEN FridayMay6thFridayNightPartyat600pmandSaturdayMay7thESCIGolfTour- nament930amshotgunstart WHERE FridayNightPartyOmniDallasHotel555S.LamarSt. ESCIGolfTournamentTPCCraigRanchMcKinney WHAT Friday Night Party begins with a VIP red carpet followed by a celebrity reception dinnerandliveauctionentertainmentanddancing. Thehighlightoftheeveningwillbethe presentation of the Roger Staubach Award. The ESCI Golf Tournament will take place the fol- lowingmorningwithplayers and other sports and enter- tainment celebrities part- nered with each foursome and it will be followed by an afternoonawardsceremony. COST Friday Night Party tickets begin at 500 each andtablesat5000. ESCI Golf Tournament Pavil- ionpassesare50. CONTACT Tifani Pinson 972.515.7704 or tpinson ejsmithenterprises.com BIGDAYBIGNIGHT2016benefitingBIGTHOUGHT WHEN BigNightFridayMay6that700pmand BigDaySaturdayMay7that930am WHERE TrinityRiverAudubonCenter6500S.GreatTrinityForestWayDallas WHAT BigThoughtisanorganizationthatworkstirelesslytobringtherightopportunities designedtosparktheimaginationtothekidswhoneedthemmost. Join Big Thought at Big Night for an evening under the stars at a new annual event that is raisingfundsforinnovativeprogramsdesignedtoclosetheopportunitygapamongourmost under-servedstudents. COST BigNightIndividualVIPticketsstartat150. Big Day Underwrite a family for 250 to attend this enriching family-friendly educational experience.Corporatesponsorshipsavailableforbothevents. CONTACT 214.520.0023orwww.bigthought.org POLOONTHELAWN WHEN SaturdayMay7thGatesOpenat300pm WHERE PrestonwoodPoloClub525YachtClubRdOakPoint WHAT The15thAnnualPoloontheLawnisaKentuckyDerbythemedevent. Dressforthe Derby and watch it LIVE. This years event benefits Caf Momentum a restaurant in Dallas thatemploysandempowersat-riskyouths. BYOBPicnicorpurchasefoodanddrinksonsite. COST Tickets are 45 per person and include the champagne divot stomp. Children 12 and underarefree. CONTACT DenaMiller214.390.3444ext.23orprprestonwoodpolo.com EQUESTS35THANNIVERSARYGALA WHEN SaturdayMay7th2016at600pm WHERE EquestTexasHorsePark811PembertonHillRoad WHAT Equests 35th Anniversary Gala will be an amazing night to celebrate the people and horses that make Equest so special and also to raise funds necessary to sustain Equests growthandcontinuedsuccessservingchildrenadultsandveteranswithphysicalcognitive andemotionalchallenges. COST Individualticketsare250sponsorshipsareavailable CONTACT Stacyat214.538.9563oremailspecialeventsequest.org CANDOLUNCHEON2016 WHEN TuesdayMay10thfrom1100amto100pm WHERE DallasCountryClub4155MockingbirdLn WHAT The Can Do Luncheon celebrates entrepreneurship in philanthropy and aCan Do attitude that makes great things happen in our community. Non-profits in Dallas are filled withwonderfulgenerousphilanthropistsandtheyarethelifebloodoftheseagencies. The Can Do Luncheon celebrates those that add something really unique through their intellect inspirationandinsight. COST Individualticketsare250sponsorshipsavailable CONTACT 214.821.6380 ALLENARTSFESTIVAL WHEN FridayMay13thfrom400pmtoduskSaturdayMay14thfrom1000amtodusk SundayMay15thfrom1000amto600pm WHERE WattersCreekatMontgomeryFarm970GardenParkDr.Allen WHAT InpartnershipwiththeAllenArtsAlliancethe6thAnnualAllenArtsFestivalreturns to Watters Creek. A selection of over 80 outstanding juried artists will display their wares. Festivaleventsincludechildrensartactivitiesmusicandchoralperformanceship-hopflash mob artist demonstrations story time art talks and band performances on the Village Green. Foodtruckswillbeon-sitewithpopularfooditemsandWattersCreekhasrestaurants thatofferavarietyofchoicesandsit-downeatingoptions. AllenArtsAllianceisanonprofitorganizationthatactivelypromotestheartsinAllen. COST Admissionisfree CONTACT AllenArtsAllianceat972.727.7272orofficeallenartsalliance.org GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 77 Visit GoodLifeFamilyMAG.com for more community events and to submit your own TRINITYRIVERWINDFESTIVAL WHEN SaturdayMay14from1100amto500pm WHERE 146W.CommerceStreetViaductDallas WHAT The Trinity River Wind Festival is an event in Dallas to celebrate the beauty and spirit of the wide-open spaces along the Trinity River. As the most unique festival in the Southwest event organizers are planning for a day filled with sunshine and a lineup of excit- ing FREE activities including Public Kite Flying Show and Stunt Kites North Texas HangPara- glidingAssociationCityofDallasKiteGiveaway while supplies last Japanese Kite Making BoothandTrinityDrawnGo. This high-flying event celebrates all kinds of kites and wind-driven toys featuring dragon kites from China paper airplane crafts and kite makers from Japan. Come fly your own kite ormakeoneatthefestival COST Admissionisfree. Parkingis4to6percar CONTACT 214.671.9500 FREETOBREATHE WHEN SundayMay15thRegistrationandCheck-instartat615am WHERE OakPointParkNaturePreserve2801EastSpringCreekPkwyPlano WHAT YoucanbecomealungcancerheroFundraiseandregistertowalkorrunwithhun- dreds of community members as they gather at the Dallas Free to Breathe RunWalk. The inspirational day will include a 5K run and walk and a 1-mile walk along with a rally food livemusicandfunforthewholefamily. All proceeds from the event support Free To Breathe a nonprofit lung cancer research and advocacy organization dedicated to ensuring surviving lung cancer is the expectation not theexception. COST 15to30 CONTACT freetobreathe.org HOPESDOOR30YEARSOFSERVICE WHEN FridayMay20that1100am WHERE HiltonGranitePark5805GranitePkwyPlano WHAT This year Hopes Door marks its 30th year of providing safety shelter healing and hopetoindividualsandfamiliesaffectedbydomesticabuse. Thiscelebratoryluncheonwill honorallofthosewhohavemadeHopesDoorasuccess. COST ContactHopesDoorforticketpricing CONTACT SuzanneBockGrishamat972.422.2911oreventshopesdoorinc.org JUNE COOLTHURSDAYSCONCERTSERIES WHEN EachThursdayinJuneGatesopenat600pm WHERE MartinRutchikConcertStageLawnatTheDallasArboretum 8525GarlandRoadDallas WHAT Outdoor evening concerts at the Dallas Arboretum featuring acts such as Walk to theLineTheMcCartneyProjectSatisfactionSupernaturalandTheDallasWinds.Guestsare encouraged to bring picnic baskets and coolers or grab a bite from some of Dallasfavorite foodtrucks. COST Admissionisfree CONTACT dallasarboretum.org 30THANNUALTASTEOFDALLAS WHEN June3rd5th Friday500to1100pmSaturday1100amto1100pmandSun- day1100amto800pm WHERE FairPark3600GrandAvenueDallas WHAT TasteofDallasisbackwithmorefoodmoreartandmoremusicforitsexciting30th annual celebration. The largest tasting event in NorthTexas brings together all the best of what it means to be alive here and now delectable food inspiring art and music that gets youmoving. COST Save when you purchase discounted tickets starting May 3rd. Locations to purchase ticketswillbeavailablesoon. CONTACT tasteofdallas.org VOLYINTHEPARK WHEN SaturdayJune4thfrom1200pmto400pm WHERE KlydeWarrenPark2012WoodallRodgersFreewayDallas WHAT Voly in the Park is Dallasonly volunteerism festival featuring 75 nonprofit agen- cies hands-on volunteer projects live entertainment and more than 5000 attendees. The festival showcasesVolunteerNows proprietary volunteer matching programVOLY.org. Vol- unteers are the lifeblood of our community and this matching platform makes it quick and easy for volunteers to connect with more than 1000 North Texas nonprofits and over 900 volunteeropportunities. COST Admissionisfreesponsorshipsstartat2500 CONTACT JenniferThomasat214.818.9847 HEARTOFACHAMPIONLUNCHEON WHEN TuesdayJune7that1130am WHERE DallasCountryClub4155MockingbirdLn WHAT The11thAnnualHeartofaChampionLuncheonsupportstheexpansionofthecapa- bilitiesofHeartHouseanafterschoolprogramthatprovidessafetyeducationandopportu- nities to refugee and underprivileged children in theVickery Meadow Community of Dallas. HeartHousetrainedstaffandvolunteersbuildeducationalexperiencestomeettheseneeds. Theyteachthewholechildusingthe HeadHeartHandsH3curriculumengagingchildren byprovidingreadingandlanguagesupportalongwithcognitivelearningcharacter-building activitiesmentoringandhands-oncommunityprojects. COST Individualticketsare200Sponsorshipsstartat2500 CONTACT LenitaDunlapat214.750.7637orldunlaphearthousedallas.org 25THANNUALCOLLINCLASSICBIKERALLY WHEN SaturdayJune11th800am WHERE The ride originates at Oak Point Park and Amphitheater 2801 East Spring CreekPkwyPlano WHAT The 25th Annual Collin Classic Bike RallywillbeheldatOakPointParkinPlano forthefirsttime.Cateringtotheseriouscy- clist the weekend rider and family riders thereissomethingforeverylevelofinterest attheCollinClassic. 100 of the proceeds benefit City House which has been serving at-risk children due to abuse neglect or homelessness since 1988. The nonprofit operates an emergency shelter for children and aTransitional Living Program forhomelessteensinNorthTexas.Apost-rideconcertwillfeatureInfiniteJourneyintheOak PointAmphitheater. COST Registrationstartsat45 CONTACT RobScichiliatrobscityhouse.org 2016KOMENNORTHTEXASPLANORACEFORTHECURE WHEN SaturdayJune11thracesiteopensat630am WHERE HP and The Campus of Legacy 5400LegacyDr.Plano WHAT Susan G. Komen Race for the CureSeriesistheworldslargestandmost successful educational and fundraising event for breast cancer. The event raises fundsandawarenessforthebreastcancer movement celebrates breast cancer sur- vivorshipandhonorsthosewhohavelost theirbattlewiththedisease. COST Registrationstartsat35 CONTACT 972.378.4808orracekomennorthtexas.org 78 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTIMES DREAM ACHIEVERS LUNCHEON Communities in Schools of the Dallas Region Inc. CISDR held its Dream Achievers Luncheon atThe Dallas Arboretum and Botanical Gar- den. Noted Dallas philanthropist Caroline Rose Hunt was honored as the recipient of the 2016 Dream Achievers Award. Ms. Hunt who was named asOne of the 50 Most Powerful Women in the USAby Ladies Home Journal has long been a great advocate in the Dallas arts and educa- tion scenes. CISDR operates in 77 schools in 12 school dis- tricts in Dallas Collin Ellis Rockwall and Hunt Counties. The non-profit was founded in 1985 to address the growing number of high school dropouts in Dallas and sur- rounding areas. Blake Lewis Chairman of the Board CISDR Caroline Rose Hunt Dream Achievers Award Recipient Judith Allen-Bazemore President and CEO CISDR Texas State Senator Don Huffines Lisa Loy Laughlin Chief Philanthropy Officer CISDR DeeDee Lee and Janie Condon founders of the St.Valentines Day Luncheon THE LEUKEMIA LYMPHOMA SOCIETY SAINT VALENTINES DAY LUNCHEON AND FASHION SHOW The Leukemia Lymphoma Society held its 32nd Annual Saint Valentines Day Luncheon and Fashion Show at the Morton H. Meyerson Symphony Center. The Fire and Ice themed event was chaired by Gina Betts and Michael Flores while Amanda and Brint Ryan served as Honorary Chairs. The style show was produced by Jan Strimple and the fashions were provided by Highland Park Village. This years event raised a record-breaking 852000 for blood cancer research and to improve the lives of patients and their families. Luke Lange received the Spirit of Tom Landry Award. George Alden Ryan was the recipient of the Lynda Adleta Heart of Gold Award. The Linda Somerville Memorial Hero Award was presented to Edgar A. Robinson. Rey Maldonado Senior Program Coordinator CISDR Eduardo Pulido AreaTeam Manager CISDR and Dream Maker Award Recipient Nancy Rogers Presenting Sponsor Gina Betts Co-Chair Luke Lange Recipient of the Spirit ofTom Landry AwardTracy Livia and Ben Lange GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 79 goodTIMES NATIONAL CHARITY LEAGUE PRESENTATIONS The Frisco Chapter the North Dallas Chapter and the Plano Chapter of the National Charity League each recently held their annual Senior Presentations at The Marriott at Legacy Town Center in Plano. Each girl wore a traditional white gown and was presented by her mother and father. The Senior Presentation is the culmination of the girls6-year NCL experience and a special time for the girls and their parents to come together and celebrate. The Frisco Chapter of the National Charity League Back row L-R Katie Calandro Hannah Snyder Lauren Hickman Samantha Bass Next row L-R Hannah Danks Madison Hildreth EmilyWood EmmaWood Megan Northcutt Front row L-R LainyThomas Allie Meuret RileyTaguwa Hope Gabelmann Annie Ratner Marley Manguray Mackenzie Rutledge Julie Linehan Not pictured Brynlee Lattin Ellison Lunde. PhotoCredit MissyDeutschMysticGardenPhotography The Plano Chapter of the National Charity League in alphabetical order Katherine Clement Kayla Finer Madison Harbin Kathryn Harris Caroline Johnson Melissa Kalka Caroline Korry Alexis Layton Claire McQuaid Emily Means Kensingten Olson Keaten Olson Lauren RaskinTaryn Shanes LaurenThomas AmandaVarner AmandaWallner. PhotoCredit KeithEvansPhotography The North Dallas Chapter of the Nation- al Charity League Back Row left to right Marisa Pisterzi Kayla Koen Kinar Oha- nian Sophia Pecorari Madison Ratliff Kailee Hughes Anna Connolly Hannah Price Lauren Bradley Mary Kate Fair- ley Nicole Karrmann Elan Neagle Riley LaCoume Jocelyn Fletcher Elizabeth Benton Front Row left to right Katy Kennington Katy Gehring Sophia Maas Katie Gelfand Emily BelierVic- toria Brigadier Abigail Evans Kimberly Klena Savannah Bass Riley Nelligan Zoe Richardson not pictured Alexis Curts and Lauren Mason HEROES AND HANDBAGS Heroes for Children held its 11th Annual Heroes Handbags event on April 8 atThe Ritz-Carlton in Dal- las. More than 500 guests perused a silent auction of new vintage and luxury handbags and accessories. Proceeds from the auction benefited Heroes for Chil- dren and its fight against childhood cancer. The si- lent auction was followed by a seated brunch for the handbag bidders and winners. This years event was chaired by Dawn Greiner and Julianna Leblanc with Lisa Cooley serving as honorary chair. Heroes for Childrens vision is that no family with a child bat- tling cancer will fight alone. Jenny Dowen Lisa Cooley Larissa Linton Dawn Greiner Julianna LeBlanc 80 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTIMES NEW FRIENDS NEW LIFE LUNCH On her first trip to Dallas Amal Clooney spoke for the first time in the United States on April 14 at the Hilton Anatole to a sold out crowd of 1700 at the New Friends New Life 13th Annual Wings Luncheon helping to raise 1 million to support victims of sex trafficking and commercial exploitation. She spoke about her lifes work and her lifelong commitment to human rights. Clooney said if nonprofits can make a difference to just one woman the work is worth it. A lot Im hearing about what New Friends New Life does is giving hope bringing hope to them just to show youre thereshe said. Its about being resilient and never giving up. Clooney said her passion motivates her work in human rights. Photos by Kristina Bowman Event chair Jeanne Phillips U.S. Rep.Ted Poe R-Humble and Katie Pedigo CEO of NFNL Amy Simmons and Annette Simmons Nancy Ann and Ray Hunt Ashlee and Chris Kleinert Caroline Mandel Caren Prothro Rosyln Dawson Thompson Sarah Burns GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 81 A SPECIAL EVENING BENEFITING LAUNCHABILITY Alliance Data hosted A Special Evening benefiting LaunchAbility on April 5. The event organizers were thrilled to have Tony and Emmy Award-winning actor and comedi- an Martin Short as guest performer for the evening. Mr. Short did not disappoint and entertained guests with his legendary hilarity. Over the past 15 years A Special Evening has garnered approximately 2000 sponsors and raised more than 2 mil- lion. All of the proceeds from the event directly benefit LaunchAbility. For over 5 decades LaunchAbility formerly Special Care Career Services has been expand- ing worlds for adults with disabilities and the families who care for them. Many of its programs are the launch points to self-re- liance and poise for these adults with diverse abilities ultimately becoming the inspiration for the name LaunchAbility. Alliance Data is a leading global provider of data-driven marketing and loyalty solutions serving large consumer-based industries. Milton P Levy Jr. Outstanding Volunteer Steve Gendler wife Read Honorary Event Chairs Joyce and Dr. LinusWright Event Chairs Mike Hilda Galvan and Karen JohnWald WOMAN TO WOMAN LUNCHEON 2016 The Jewish Family Service of Greater Dallas JFS hosted its biennial Woman to Woman Luncheon on April 5 at the Hyatt Regency in Dallas. The luncheon featured Academy Award-winning actress producer director best-selling author and childrens advocate Goldie Hawn. Ms. Hawn dazzled the guests with her bubbly and jovial personality while recounting the work she is doing to help create education programs that support the social and emotional de- velopment of children through The Hawn Foundation. The event celebrates the power and impact of women in our community provides substantial support for the programs and services at JFS and helps grow the agencys mission of pro- viding professional effective and afford- able mental health and social services that promote lifelong self-sufficiency and well-being for anyone in need re- gardless of religion race ethnicity or ability to pay. Event Chairs Esther Meyers Kimberly Ross Linda Garner Kim Chapman and Caryn Kboudi Keynote speaker Goldie Hawn LEGACY OF LOVE BENEFIT AND FASHION SHOW The Womens Auxiliary to Childrens Medical Center Plano hosted their fourth annual Legacy of Love Benefit and Fashion Show on April 7 2016 at Mercedes-Benz of Plano. Over 400 guests attended this sold-out benefit that featured spring fashions along with drinks and bites from eight no- table DFW restaurants. The honorary chairs for this years red carpet event were former Dallas Cowboy DarrenWoodson and his wife Tiffany. Fashion show emcees includedWFAAs Chief Meteorologist Pete Delkus and former news anchor Rikki Ragland. Net proceeds from the Legacy of Love Benefit and Fashion Show went directly to Childrens Medical Center Plano. Guests donations surpassed the nights goal by raising nearly 200000 which will be used for patient support equipment and other program needs such as pet therapy. Other programs funded by the Womens Auxiliary include music therapy Center for Pediatric Eating Disorders the Childrens Medi- cal Center Research Institute at UT Southwestern and the Pauline Allen Gill Center for Cancer and Blood Disorders. Womens Auxiliary members Susan Spindler Lisa Raskin Joyce Logan and Diane Hopson 82 GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 goodTIMES A GATHERING OF INSPIRATION HONORING DR. CARY ISRAEL Chabad of PlanoCollin County honored Dr. Cary A. Israel former president of Collin College with the Florence Shapiro Distinguished Leadership Award on April 17 at A Gathering of Inspiration at the John Anthony Theatre at Collin CollegeSpring Creek Campus. This award honors those whose leadership skills and dedication have made a significant impact on the success and continued growth of the quality of life in Plano and the surrounding area of Collin County. During Dr. Israels 16 years of visionary leadership the college grew to 52000 students several impressive libraries and conference centers were construct- ed and the new Collin Higher Education Center was built in McKinney. Collin College received numerous national awards for excellence in education raising the profile of the community college educational system both in our own com- munity and beyond. And recently The Dr. Cary A. Israel Health Sciences Center was dedicated by the college in his honor. In the spirit of inspiration longtime community volunteer and Special Olympics champion Bradley Rossel of Dal- las received the Chesed Award for outstanding community work. See related story on page 70. Sheryl Pidgeon Karen Glanger Bonita Gluckman Marla Buskin The Florence Shapiro Distinguished Leadership Award recipient Dr. Cary Israel with Senator Florence and Howard Shapiro Chesed award recipient Bradley Rossel with sibling Ilana Narosov and Jeremy Rossel See more photos at GoodLifeFamilyMAG.com. ST. PHILIPS 16TH ANNUAL DESTINY AWARDS St. Philips School and Community Center held its 16th Annual Destiny Awards Lun- cheon on March 4. The event garnered historical success with a match donation of 250000 from Gradus making the proceeds of the event exceed the 900000 mark. Over 700 guests attended the monumental luncheon where St. Philips also celebrated its 70th year of ministry education and service in the South Dallas community. The event featured a moderated interview of Oscar nominee Emmy Tony and SAG Award winning actress Viola Davis by WFAA reporter Rebecca Lopez. Ms. Davis capti- vated and inspired guests with her message as she described her path to success out of abject poverty. Abigail and Todd Williams received the first Humanitarian Award which recognizes exceptional work toward bridging relationships between diverse communities. TrinityWhiteViola Davis Jonathan Lax and Qaadir Muhammad Todd and Abigail Williams Alexander Huerta Sara Madsen Miller Debbie Alves and MichelleThomas GoodLifeFamilyMag.com MAY JUNE 2016 83 JOIN OUR FAMILY Share your thoughts stories insights advice and yes even frustrations and failures with Good Life Family. Email Sheryl Pidgeon SherylGoodLifeFamilyMag.com or any member of the Good Life Family team. Good Morning Texass Paige McCoy Smith talks about finding balance in the sea of life... - Paige Smooth Sailing goodPOINT People often ask me how I balance it all the kids job homework marriage carpool deadlines commute I have to stop now. Just writing it down makes me tired. I like to use the analogy of being in a canoe on an ocean that keeps afloat by occasionally tipping to the left or right depending on the tide. That peaceful comparison works well until a harpoon is shot into the side of my little boat and I simply sink. You can be sailing along just fine thank you very much and then an illness a blown water heater or a 24-page report on the French Revolution thats due tomorrow yesthat happened can shall we say certainly rock the boat. Balance is allusive and seemingly unattainable. In fact the closest I get to living in harmony is a combination of caffeine Downward Dog and an occasional good cry. Im not aloneI know you are likely in a similar canoe in the same ocean waiting for the next tidal wave. Even with proper planning and good intentions the unexpected curve ball that comes with life can throw everything out-of-whack. So if youre looking at this article as a how-to guide for finding that perfect balance in your life avert your eyes now and quickly flip to another page. But if you are seeking a warm hug the next time you are late to the carpool line or a sympathetic nod when its May and you still havent written your Christmas thank you cards you have come to the right place. I can sit here and write such things as find time for me time or balance is a state of mindbut who am I kidding You are still going to put way too much on your plate and feel defeated when something falls through the cracks. My best advice Cut yourself some slack. Do your best to prioritize but please forgive yourself when priorities are blurred and hard choices must be made. Here is a practical idea that I am stealing from a true can-do woman. Although by all appearances she had it all together she confessed that many sleepless nights were a consequence of all the things that were left undone on a daily basis. Her solution Instead of creating yet another To-Do list she made a Did-Do list. She wrote down all of the many accomplishments she had in a single day. On any given day this may have included 3 loads of laundry 7 returned phone calls or 125 cotton balls glued to poster board for her sons research project. So pour yourself that second glass of Chardonnay take a few deep breaths and know that it will all be waiting for you in the morning. So will your worst critic. You know who she is the one who stares back at you in the mirror. When you see her be kind to her. After all at the end of the day shes the one rowing the boat keeping your head above water. PS Look for me on WFAA Channel 8 Monday through Friday at 900 AM US 75 at Bethany Dr. 972.747.8000 watterscreek.com CHICOS ANTHROPOLOGIE BRIO TUSCAN GRILLE CHARMING CHARLIE FRANCESCAS THE BLUE FISH KENDRA SCOTT GRIMALDIS PIZZERIA DSW Join us for the Allen Arts Festival May 13 15. Get inspired with more than 60 of the nest names in style services and cuisine in our artisanal setting. Watters Creek naturally inspired shopping.